Encarni Arcoya 
Njengoko usazi, amaphupha yindlela ingqondo yakho eqhuba ngayo kwaye igcina ulwazi lwemihla ngemihla ngokulala. Kwaye ezi ziphenjelelwa ngamava emihla ngemihla, iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo. Ngoko ke, ukuphupha i-hummingbird kunokuba nentsingiselo ebalulekileyo kuwe.
Kuya kufuneka uhlale uyikhumbula loo nto Amaphupha afuzisela kwaye ahlala ehambelana nemiba yobuntu bethu okanye ubomi bethu. Kodwa kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha i-hummingbird? Ukuza ngokulandelayo, siyakuxelela.
Ukuphupha umama wakho esweleka akumnandanga. Kwabaninzi liphupha elibi. Mhlawumbi eyona imbi banokuba nayo. Noko ke, oko akuthethi ukuba ngaxa lithile uya kuzifumana ukule meko. Kwaye ukwazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini xa umama wakho esifa kunokukunceda ubone ukuba yintoni i-subconscious yakho efuna ukukuxelela yona.
Ke ngoko, kwesi sihlandlo, Siza kukunika iintsingiselo ezahlukeneyo ezibakho xa uphupha usweleka umama wakho.
Asinakuthi onke amaphupha aneentsingiselo. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kukho amaphupha athi, xa sivuka, asishiye sinemvakalelo kunye nenkumbulo ecacileyo yento eyenzekileyo. Xa sikhangela intsingiselo yazo, kwiimeko ezininzi ingqamana nomzuzwana wobomi bethu. Ngoko kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha umntu ongasathethi naye? Kwakhe kwenzeka kuwe ukuba ube neli phupha?
Ukuphupha ngomntu ongasathethi naye kuxhaphake kakhulu, nakwiingcali zengqondo, kuthetha ukuba kukho imvakalelo ethile ngakuloo mntu, elungileyo okanye embi. Kodwa yintoni intsingiselo yalo yokwenene?
Xa siphupha, akukho maxesha amaninzi sinethuba lokuphembelela oko i-subconscious yethu ifuna ukusibonisa yona. Yiloo nto sisoloko sidibana nezinto ezingaqhelekanga. Ukuphupha ihashe elimnyama kukude apho uya khona, into esinokuyithetha iqhelekile.
Kodwa ngaba yinto entle okanye embi? Kwenzeka ntoni xa sinezo ntlobo zamaphupha? Apha sikuchazela yonke into.
Kukho amaphupha namaphupha amabi. Yaye emaphupheni, xa unezinyo elimnandi okanye uthanda iilekese, ukuphupha iilekese kunokufana nokuba separadesi. Ingakumbi kuba emva koko uvuka ufuna ukungcamla inkalakahla obo bumnandi yinto yokuqala oyifaka emlonyeni wakho.
Ngoku, ngaba ukhe wacinga ukuba ukuphupha iilekese kuyinto elungileyo? Okanye mhlawumbi kubi? Kwenzeka ntoni xa uphupha usitya iilekese okanye unikwa iilekese? Ungaxhalabi, apha siza kuhlalutya ezinye iintsingiselo ezinxulumene noku.
Xa usemncinci kwaye kufuneka uye eklasini, ukuphupha ngesikolo asiyonto oyifunayo, ngakumbi ekubeni sele unokwaneleyo ukuchitha iiyure ezingama-5-6 apho. Noko ke, ngaba wakha wacinga ukuba eli phupha linokuba nentsingiselo?
Kuthekani ukuba uyaphupha, ngoku umdala, wesikolo? Kuthekani ukuba ubona abantwana besiya esikolweni? Ngezantsi sityhila yonke into ofuna ukuyazi malunga nolu hlobo lwamaphupha. Ngaba iya kuba yekhayo okanye embi?
Bathi amaphupha ngamaphupha. Kodwa eneneni kuhlala kukho imiyalezo evela kwi-subconscious yakho, ukuba uyayazi indlela yokuyitolika, inokukunceda kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla. Nokuba kukutshintsha okanye ukuba nethemba lento eza kuza kuwe. Ezinye zifana namaphupha amabi, njengokuphupha emeva. Enyanisweni, nangona kusithiwa intlungu ayinakuviwa, sinayo loo mvakalelo.
Kodwa kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngameva? Ngaba yinto entle okanye embi? Kwenzeka ntoni ukuba ufumana ameva ezandleni okanye ezinyaweni zakho? Kwaye ukuba ubabambe ngesandla sakho? Ukuba ukhe waphupha ngabo Okulandelayo sikunika izitshixo ukuze uqonde intsingiselo yayo.
Uninzi lwamaphupha anentsingiselo, indlela yokuba i-subconscious yethu inxibelelane into entle okanye engalunganga kuthi. Yiyo loo nto xa uphupha kubalulekile ukukhumbula eyona mpawu yephupha. Omnye wabo usenokuba uphupha inxila. Ngaba yakha yakwehlela?
Ukuba ufuna ukwazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini kwaye ingqondo yakho izama ukukuxelela ntoni, ke siya kukunika impendulo ngokusekelwe kwinto onokuyikhumbula kakhulu. Ziphose kuyo?
Yakhe yenzeka into yoba uvuke uxhwalekile ngenxa yephupha elibi lokukhuthuzwa? Ukuphupha uhlaselwa akunto ingaqhelekanga, ngaxa lithile ebomini bethu sinokuzibona sikuloo meko kumaphupha ethu.
Kodwa ngaba inentsingiselo? Ukuba uyayiqwalasela kwaye kukho iinxalenye zephupha ozikhumbula ngokucacileyo, apha siza kuzama ukwenza ingqiqo yento i-subconscious yakho izama ukukuxelela yona.
Ngaba ukhe waqhuba emaphupheni akho? iphupha lokuqhuba Asiyonto ingaqhelekanga, ngokuchaseneyo noko. Bonisa ukukwazi kwakho ukuthatha ulawulo kwiimeko ezithile kwaye kukuse kwelinye inqaku ebomini bakho.
Nangona kunjalo, xa uphupha, kunokubakho ukutolika okuhlukeneyo okusekelwe ekuqhubeni imoto, ibhasi, iloli, isithuthuthu ... Kuthekani ukuba sikushiye intsingiselo yezona ziqhelekileyo?
Khawucinge ukuba uza kuthabatha uhambo. Ngexesha elithile uziva uthanda ukuya kwindlu yangasese, ngoko ke into eqhelekileyo kukuba uyeka kwindawo ethile. Kodwa xa ungena, ubabona bemdaka. Ke uvala umnyango kwaye, ngaphandle kokuba ungxamisekile kwaye awukwazi ukuwuthatha, uye kwenye indawo. Kodwa, emaphupheni akho wenze into enjalo? Ukuphupha ngezindlu zangasese ezimdaka, kholwa okanye hayi, yinto eqhelekileyo kwaye abantu abaninzi baye "banamava" ubuncinane kanye ebomini babo.
Kwaye oku "lizothe" eneneni kunentsingiselo. Ke ukuba uvukile kwaye ukhumbule ukuba inxalenye yephupha lakho ngokucacileyo, kutheni singazami ukwenza intsingiselo yalo?
Izitya ziyinkunkuma esinazo ezindlini kwaye azinamsebenzi ngenxa yokuba, mhlawumbi ziphumile kwisitayela, ngenxa yokuba azisebenzi, kuba ziphukile ... Amaxesha amaninzi siqokelela ezi zinto kwidrowa, mhlawumbi ngenxa iimvakalelo ezisikhumbuzayo, Zilungile ngokuzikhupha emehlweni. Ngoko ke, ukuphupha ngee-frets kunokuba yinto eqhelekileyo.
Ngoku ithetha ukuthini? Ukuba ufuna ukwazi, kwaye Kuxhomekeka kwiphupha oliphuphileyo, liya kuba nentsingiselo enye.Qhubeka ufunda kwaye uya kufumanisa.
Kukho amaxesha apho amaphupha abe ephupha kwaye aphuphe i-elf, i-fairy, i-waswolf, i-vampire ... ayikho into engaqhelekanga. Ngoku, into onokuthi ufune ukuyazi kukuba yonke into oku kunentsingiselo mhlawumbi ongazange uyicinge ngaphambili. Kwaye okwangoku, i-subconscious yakho izama ukukunceda nokuba awuyiva.
Ngoko ke, ngaba uyazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha i-elf? Kuthekani ukuba zilungile? Kuthekani ukuba zimbi? Siza kukuxelela yonke into kwangoko.
Kunqabile kakhulu ukuba sibe nempembelelo kumaphupha. Ngesi sizathu, sihlala sizibona sisenza izinto ezinokuthi zenzeke mihla le, okanye ezinye ezingenakwenzeka ngokupheleleyo kubomi bokwenyani. Kule meko, ukuphupha ibhanana akunakwenzeka. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba uyayidla, uyayibona, uyithenge, okanye inombala othile.
Kodwa xa uvuka kwelo phupha, ngaba yinto yokuqala oyikhumbulayo leyo? Ngoko ke kukho intsingiselo eya kuxhomekeka kuhlobo lwebhanana kunye nento eyenzekayo. Kuthekani ukuba sikuncede ukuba uyiqonde?
Amaphupha nawo ayindlela apho i-subconscious yethu izama ukucwangcisa iinkumbulo zayo. Kodwa ikwasilumkisa nangezinto ezithile ezenzekayo ezisingqongileyo okanye ezingayi kusichaphazela. Kule meko, ukuphupha ukuhlamba ilindle yinto esingayithandi kakhulu, kodwa ingenzeka. Kuthetha ukuthini xa oku kusenzeka? Ngaba yinto entle okanye embi?
Nangona isenzo ngokwaso singemnandanga kakhulu ukusibona okanye ukujoja, inyaniso kukuba, kuxhomekeke kwimeko ozifumana ukuyo, inokuba yinto entle okanye embi. Siyicacisa ngezantsi.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ubucwebe bungenye yezinto ezifunwa kakhulu ngabasetyhini, kunye namadoda amaninzi, ngoko ke ukuphupha akuqhelekanga. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, namhlanje siza kugxila ekuphupheni ngamacici, okanye yintoni efanayo, ukuphupha ngamacici.
Akukhathaliseki nokuba ezi zibekwe ezindlebeni, okanye kwamanye amalungu omzimba (njengokugqobhoza), kufuneka wazi ukuba zinentsingiselo kwaye oko kuya kuxhomekeka kwimeko ozifumana ukuyo ephupheni kunye nohlobo lwamacici, okanye apho ubeka khona.
Los amaphupha zezinye zezona ndlela zinomdla wokuba ukungabi nalwazi kwakho kubize ingqalelo yakho. Amaxesha amaninzi, into elula kwaye engaqondakaliyo njengokuphupha ngekeyiki inokuba ngumqondiso wezinto ezilungileyo okanye ezimbi.
Kodwa kuthekani ukuba kukho ikhekhe emaphupheni akho? Kuthetha ukuthini ukuba uyabhaka? Kwaye utya ntoni? Kuthekani ukuba ikeyiki itshokolethi okanye cream? Ukuba xa uvukile into ethe yafika engqondweni yakho kukuphupha ikhekhe, apha sikuxelela ukuba kuthetha ukuthini.
Amaphupha ngamaphupha. Yinto enqabileyo kakhulu ebomini ukuba yenzeke. Kodwa liyinyaniso elokuba maxa wambi ukuphupha izinto ezithile, okanye ubuncinane ukuzikhumbula, kunokuba nentsingiselo efihlakeleyo. Ngokomzekelo, ngaba uyazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha nge-shrimp?
Ewe, kukho amaxesha apho i-shrimp ingangena kumaphupha akho kwaye ezi, ezi zizinto ezityiwayo ezincamisileyo kwaye ababaninzi abantu abanokuzifumana (ezilungileyo, ezilungileyo) zinentsingiselo ebalulekileyo. Eyiphi? Sikucacisela yona.