Ufuna ukwazi ukuba yintoni kuthetha ukuphupha ibhayisekile? Iibhayisikile yindlela yokuhamba eye yafumana ukuthandwa kumashumi eminyaka akutshanje. Ziyindlela yokuhamba ngaphandle kokungcolisa indalo, ngelixa uzilolonga kwaye ugcina inkangeleko yakho. Kukho ukutolikwa ngokubanzi, oku kuhlala kunxulunyaniswa nabo bonke abaphuphayo, kodwa kukho ezinye ezingafane zihambe kwaye ezingabalulekanga kangako.
Ayifani ukukhwela ibhayisekile emhlophe entle kunokubona ukuba ibiwe njani, iyakophula okanye ulahlekelwe yiyo. Ukongeza, ukufumana intsingiselo ngokuchanekileyo, kuya kufuneka wongeze enye into eyahlukileyo: imeko yakho, kuba kuxhomekeke kwixesha ohamba kulo, intsingiselo inokuba yinto elungileyo okanye embi. Ngaphandle kokuqhubela phambili, saqala ukubona onke amathuba.
Iyintoni intsingiselo yokuphupha ngeebhayisikile?
Enye yeemfuno zokuhamba ngaphandle kokuwa kukuba ibhalansi. Ngesi sizathu, iingcali zengqondo ziyitolika loo nto ibhayisekile ibhekisa kwibhalansi onayo okanye oyifunayo ebomini bakho. Oko kukuthi, ukuba ngexesha le-subconscious ikubeka uzolile uhamba ecaleni kwendlela kwaye uyonwabele imbonakalo yomhlaba, oko kubonisa ukuba umzuzu wokuzinza ngokweemvakalelo, nokuzola kunye nawe.
Kodwa zininzi okuninzi kwephupha, ezinye zibonisa ukuba ayizipinki zonke. Unokuthi ngequbuliso ube nengozi apho wophula ilungu lomzimba, okanye ngempazamo (okanye ngabom) ubaleke phezu kwesilwanyana, ujike iphupha libe liphupha elibi. Kuthetha ntoni oku?
Olunye utoliko lokuphupha malunga nokukhwela ibhayisekile
Yiya kwibhayisikile ngaphandle kokunye Ikwabonisa ukuba uyakwazi ukuzenzela isigqibo, kungekho mntu ukuncedayo. Uyawazi umendo wakho, ke ngoko, sukuvumela nantoni na okanye nabani na akuphazamise ngokwenyani. Ukuba unomnqweno, yiya kuwo.
Into inokutshintsha ukuba, umzekelo, Ayinguwe oqhuba ibhayisekile, kodwa uye ngasemva ubambelele kumhlobo osemva kwakhe.
Oku kubonisa ukuba awukwazi ukuzimela, kufuneka ukhokelwe ngabanye abantu, nto leyo ingeyonto imbi nokuba; unayo nje ubuntu bakho.
Ukuba uphupha ukuba uyanyathela ngokukhawuleza okukhulu, luphawu lokuba ungxama kakhulu. Ngaba uthathe isigqibo sokutshata umntu obukhe wanaye ixesha elifutshane? Ngaba uza kuqala ishishini kwaye ubeke ukuthembeka kwemali kusapho lwakho emngciphekweni?
Cinga kancinci malunga nezinto oza kuzenza, ngakumbi ukuba ngumbuzo obaluleke kakhulu.
Ukuba ukhwela ibhayisekile ngaphandle kweziqhoboshi Ithetha ukuba uqala ukuphulukana nolawulo ebomini bakho, nokuba ingcali okanye yonke imihla.
Kwakhona, cinga ngale nto uyenzayo kuba unokufumana utshintsho olukhulu kwaye olungenakulungiseka. Jonga zonke iindlela ezinokubakho kwaye, ukuba ufuna ukutshintsha ikhosi, yenza njalo.
Ukhe waziswa ngenduli ekunzima ukuyinyuka?
Kuthetha ukuba ukwelixa apho kuya kufuneka wenze umzamo owongezelelweyo ukufezekisa injongo: iiyure ezingaphezulu zokufunda ukupasa iimviwo, sebenza nzima ngakumbi ukuhlangabezana noko kufunekayo okanye ukuhlawula imali mboleko yendlu yakho ...
Inyaniso enomdla ngayo yile Ewe, ngexesha lokulala kwakho uyakwazi ukunyuka loo ntaba ngebhayisekile yakho, kungenxa yokuba wenza umsebenzi olungileyo kwaye uyazincama ngokwenyani. Ngamanye amaxesha, uwenza kakuhle kangangokuba unyuka loo ntaba ngaphandle kwengxaki.
Ukuba ungumthandi webhayisikile okanye ibhayisekile yakho ithetha lukhulu kuwe, ungaphupha ibiwe. Ukwengeza, iibhayisekile ezibiweyo zibonisa uloyiko lwento eyenzekayo, ukuba uthathwe into exabiseke kakhulu ezingalweni zakho. Lwela into oyifunayo, ungaze unikezele!
Ukuba ibhayisekile yaphukileKungenxa yokuba uyaphazama kwezinye zezenzo zakho, kwaye ezantsi kwakho uyayazi. Mhlawumbi wenzakalise umhlobo kwaye awuzange ucele uxolelo, ngenxa yeso sizathu, uphupha ukuba loo nto ixabisekileyo yaphulwe.
Inyaniso yokuba luhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, obomvu, omthubi, njl njl, ayinamsebenzi kakhulu, ibonisa nje ukuba uyathandana ngemibala ethile. Endaweni yoko, umhlophe ufuzisela ubunyulu.
Ukuba ulifumene eli nqaku malunga nentsingiselo ye phupha ngebhayisekile, Ndikucebisa ukuba ufunde abanye kwicandelo le- amaphupha unobumba B.
Ndiphuphe ndikhwelewe ndijongise ezantsi kwibhayisekile ekhuselekileyo nekhuselekileyo, akukho nto izakwenzeka kum, bendiziva ngathi ndizongqubana nesango labanye abamelwane abangasekhoyo, kodwa phambi kokungqubana nebhayisekile ime ... Ndicinga ukuba ndilawule intshukumo yokungabangeli ingozi ... ndahleka kakhulu ukuba andiqondi ukuba ndingayenza njani yonke loo nto ukuba ndijongise ezantsi, andizange ndinyathele kwaye ndingenazo izibambo zokuqhuba. Ndiyazithemba kwaye noThixo undityhilele ukuba ubomi bam busezandleni zakhe ... ndonwabile ukumthemba yena nam ngezigqibo zam ... ngaphandle koloyiko ...
Ndiphuphe ndikhwela ibhayisekile kodwa iipedali zisesandleni sam ndithwele umama emva kwam ndakhwela unyana wam ndahamba.
Ndiphuphe ndibuyisa ibhayisekile yam ebibiwe kum
Ndiphuphe izihlandlo ezininzi ndifumana ibhayisekile yam okanye ibiwe kulomntu ebe ibhayisekile yam
Ndiphuphe ndikhwela ibhayisekile yam ndisenza iviliew ngalo lonke ixesha. Wayehla ngendlela esecaleni kwendlela aze abuye ngendlela esecaleni, ephepha iitafile ezininzi ezazincamathelene, kungekho nendawo yokuya phambili. Ude eme phambi kwebar ukuze a-odole into.
Ndiphuphe ndikhwele ibhayisekile, ndinyathela ngaphandle kokubamba ngesandla, (ngezandla ezikhululekileyo) ndiziva ndonwabile, ndikhululekile, ndizolile, ndonwabela imbonakalo yomhlaba. Kodwa bekukho inkcukacha, ibhayisekile ibingenazo iziqhoboshi, kwaye xa ndithatha isigqibo sokuyeka ndakhangela indlela yokumisa ngaphandle kokuwa ... kwaye ndaphumelela.
Ndiphuphe ibhayisekile yam ibiwe kodwa ekugqibeleni uyibuyile ibhayisekile ndiyamthuka lo ebeyibile
Andazi ukukhwela ibhayisekile. Ndiphuphe ndikhwele kakuhle kwenye, ndisazi ukuba andazi ukuba ndenze njani. Ibhayisekile yam yayinkulu, inamavili amakhulu afana nalawo ayenabazali kwiminyaka emininzi eyadlulayo. Ukukhanya, igolide ngombala nangona ndingakhange ndibone ezinye iinkcukacha. Ndiyazi nje ukuba ibintsha. Xa ndiyiphatha ndaziva ndonwabile kwaye ndothukile kwaye ndifuna ukuya phambili. Ndaziva ndizolile. Ndiphume umzuzwana okwangoku, kwangena indoda engathandekiyo yayalela ukuba ndimse kwenye indawo. Ndimjonge ngomsindo ndathi makahlike, that he will respect me. Enye indoda ende, uhlobo lomcuphi kumdlalo bhanyabhanya, yaphuma yamtsalela ezantsi. Wamnika isilumkiso sokuba angaphindi andikhathaze kwaye ndakwazi ukubuyela kwibhayisikile yam. Bendikumnyhadala obusecaweni, endingawuhoyanga. Wayefuna ukuqhubeka ekhwela kwaye abone ukuba angenza ntoni kuye. Bendicinga ukuba kuzobalula ngoku ukuya kwenza ishishini lam kwiidolophu ezikufuphi nasekhaya, ngaphandle kokuxhomekeka kwizithuthi zikawonkewonke.
Ndiphuphe ndithatha ibhayisekile emfusa kwaye bendikwazi ukuyikhwela ikhululekile kwaye ngakumbi kuba kubomi bokwenyani andazi ukuba ndikhwela njani emva koko ndakhwela intombi yam encinci ndaye ndakwazi ukuqhuba ngokulula.