Iphupha lezihlobo Oku kuthetha ukuba yinyani eyenzeka njengenye into engenakuphepheka, ukuba singaqondanga sizive sisondelelene kwaye sikhuselekile nabantu abayinxalenye yokusingqongileyo. Ukuba izalamane ezisondeleyo ziyavela ephupheni, oko akuthethi ukuba sinengxaki, kodwa into inokubuyela ngaphakathi kuthi kwaye inokubonisa uphawu oluthile kubuntu bethu.
Kuyimfuneko ukwazi ukuba enye idatha ijikeleze iphupha ukuze ikwazi ukunika uhlobo oluthile lokutolika. Banokusilumkisa ukuba utshintsho olubalulekileyo luya kwenzeka kusapho okanye uhlobo oluthile lwesiganeko lunokuvela kwaye lubangele ukudana.
Inokuthetha oko awuzukufumana ngaphezulu kwelahleko yaloo mntu. Nangona kunjalo, kuya kufuneka uqaphele kwaye ukhumbule ukuba ephupheni eso sihlobo sifuna ukukuxelela into, mhlawumbi kuya kufuneka unikele ingqalelo.
Ukuba abazali abangasekhoyo bavela, oko kuthetha ukuba baya kukwazisa ukuba ubhengeze utshintsho oluhle ebomini bakho okanye isiganeko sokusweleka komntu omthandayo. Ukuba umzobo womzalwana ongasekhoyo uvela, ukunika izitshixo ezilungileyo zokuqhubela phambili neengxaki onokuthi ujongane nazo. Ukuba uphupha izibini ezifileyo okanye abantwana, ngokuqinisekileyo babhengeza utshintsho olukhulu njengokubhengezwa njengongenakho ukubhengezwa.
Ngokuqinisekileyo siya kuba njalo ndilahlekile isihlobo Khange siyibone ixesha elide kwaye imele loo mzuzu wokukhumbula okanye ukudana. Iintsingiselo zinokwahluka, mhlawumbi ulinde ukuba nenzala kwaye imelwe emaphupheni nezihlobo ezikude. Usenokuba udlule kwingqondo ebalulekileyo yempikiswano yosapho kwaye uyiphose loo nkxaso yosapho uziva ukude nayo.
Enye yeentsingiselo kukuba mhlawumbi ezo zihlobo zingene kwisangqa sabo bantu balityelweyo. Kodwa ezantsi azilibalekanga njengoko kubonakala, kodwa i-subconscious yakho iyabona ukuba kuya kufuneka ulungise umba othile osalindileyo kunye nabo.
Olu hlobo lwamaphupha luyakukhumbuza oko Kukho ubudlelwane obunetyhefu mhlawumbi bekufanele ukuba ububekile ecaleni Kudala kwaye kukho iimeko ezikwenza ubone ukuba yonke into kobu bomi yoyisiwe. Kwezi ntlobo zokutolika, ngokuqinisekileyo zikwenza ukhumbule i-subconscious yakho ukuba ezantsi bekukho iakhawunti elindile kwaye ikwenza ungonwabi. Ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ube nomsindo kwaye uziva unomsindo, oko kubonisa ukuba ilungu losapho lihamba ngendlela ethile yokugula.
Ukuphupha abahlobo ngamava iphindaphindeka kakhulu ngexesha lokufikisa. Kule nqanaba xa abahlobo bayinxalenye yenkampani ebalulekileyo, njengoko bebonisa uvuyo, iingxoxo, iimvakalelo kunye noxolelwaniso. Ukuba, kwelinye icala, sele umdala, olu hlobo lwephupha lungenza into ekuboneni kwakho, kusenokuthetha ukufika kweendaba ezimnandi.
Ukuphupha ngabahlobo bobuntwana kuthetha ukuba kufuneka jonga ubomi bethu. Isimema ukuba kufuneka sizijonge kwaye sivavanye lonke utshintsho notshintsho olwenzekileyo ebomini bakho. Kuya kufuneka wenze ukubala kwaye uphawule ngaphambi nasemva, kufuneka siyixabise yonke into esingqonge nesinayo ngalo mzuzu, ukuvavanya ukuba sele sihambe kangakanani njengomntu.
Ingasixelela ukuba silindele ntoni a ikamva elithembisayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo iyahambelana nephulo lolunye uhlobo lweprojekthi oqala ukuyiphuhlisa. Ukuphupha malunga nexesha elidlulileyo akufuneki ukuvumele ukuba kukubambise kwi-nostalgia, ubomi bakho kufuneka buqhubeke. Kungenzeka ukuba ufezekise amaphupha akho kwaye ezinye iingxaki zempilo ziya kuphela.
Ngokuqinisekileyo ndiyitolika indlela yakho Thatha ithuba elincinci ebomini bakho ngendlela elungileyo. I-subconscious yakho ikwinqanaba elifanelekileyo elifuna ukuvuleleka kuyo nayiphi na iprojekthi ngentshiseko. Ubomi bakho bufuna ukuthatha indawo ebalulekileyo, ngokuqinisekileyo uyakhula kwaye ufuna ukunikezela ubomi bakho kutshintsho olukhulu kunye noxanduva kubandakanya ukuqala usapho.
Ukuphupha ulwandle kuyafana nenyaniso yokuba sinqwenela ukuba nalo mzuzu ukhona ukunqunyulwa kunye nokuphumla. Ngokuqinisekileyo sinexesha loxinzelelo kwaye sidinga iintsuku ezimbalwa zokuphumla ngaselwandle. Ukuba abahlobo bavela ephupheni, oko kuthetha ukuba loo mzuzu mkhulu unokuyonwabela ngeholide efanelekileyo kwaye inokwabelwana nabantu obathandayo njengabahlobo. Kodwa olu hlobo lokonwaba lunokumela ukuba kufuneka unakekele yonke into ngothando kunye nokukhuselwa, ukuba awufanele uvumele ukuqhutywa ngokugqithileyo yiyo nayiphi na imeko ngaphandle kokukhathalela eyona nto uyithandayo.
Ukuphupha umama wakho esweleka akumnandanga. Kwabaninzi liphupha elibi. Mhlawumbi eyona imbi banokuba nayo. Noko ke, oko akuthethi ukuba ngaxa lithile uya kuzifumana ukule meko. Kwaye ukwazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini xa umama wakho esifa kunokukunceda ubone ukuba yintoni i-subconscious yakho efuna ukukuxelela yona.
Ke ngoko, kwesi sihlandlo, Siza kukunika iintsingiselo ezahlukeneyo ezibakho xa uphupha usweleka umama wakho.
Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba kuthetha ntoni phupha umntwanaUfike kwindawo elungileyo kuba ndiza kusombulula onke amathandabuzo akho. Xa sinomntwana sikuthatha njengeyona nto ixabisekileyo enokwenzeka kuthi nanjenge utshintsho olukhulu ebomini bakho.
Akukho nto izokufana kwabo bazali ukusukela ngalamzuzu, sinomntwana kwaye ixesha lifikile lokuba simtotobise ngoba umsulwa, simnike ukufudumala ukuze ahlaliseke kwaye amkhaphe kwinyathelo ngalinye izakuthatha ebomini bakho obutsha ukuba ungene emhlabeni.
Ebomini, kukho izinto ezininzi umntu ngamnye aya kuba nazo ngaxa lithile; enye yazo ubuhlobo. Kungako kunjalo phupha nabahlobo kuyinto eqhelekileyo, kwaye into yokuba ixhaphake eluntwini ichaza ukuba kukho intsingiselo emva kwayo. Ngaba uyafuna ukwazi ukuba yintoni? Kweli nqaku uza kwazi atolikwa njani la maphupha, kodwa kuqala kufuneka ucacise ezinye iinkcukacha.
Uhlalutyo kunye neempendulo zahluka kakhulu kuxhomekeke kwimeko yephupha, kuba alifani ukuba i-subconscious ikubonisa Abahlobo odlala nabo kwaye wonwabe naboUngathini xa ikufundisa abahlobo bakho basweleke kuba ubakhumbula. Ke ngoko, kuyafuneka ukuba uyifunde ngocoselelo kwaye uthathele ingqalelo imeko yakho, eya kuthi ibe nefuthe kwisiphelo osifikelela esiphelweni.
Ukuba usandula ukuphupha usana kwaye ungazi ukuba ulutolike njani, ungoyiki, naku ndikuzisa isisombululo: kweli nqaku ndiza kukugcina uvukile Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha abantwana. Uninzi lwamaxesha apho siphupha into kufuneka siyicacise ngalo mzuzu kuba inxulumene nomsitho osondeleyo kuloo mzuzu. Ngaba wakhe waziva ukuba kufuneka vumela umntwana ngaphakathi kuwe? Ekuziphatheni kwakho kwakhona njengasebuntwaneni bakho, ngaphandle kwalo naluphi na uhlobo lwexhala?
Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana bafanekisela ubumsulwa, ukonwaba, inkululeko, kunye nothando lwento yonke. Kodwa ukuphupha ngayo kunokuba nokutolika okuninzi kuxhomekeke kwimeko ekuboniswa yi-subconscious. Umzekelo, unga uphupha umntwana owonwabileyo, osandul 'ukuzalwa, okhalayo, ogulayo okanye ofileyo. Ngaba umbala omdaka okanye omdaka? Ngaba icocekile okanye imdaka? Ngaba usisityebi okanye ulihlwempu? Umxholo ngamnye utolikwa ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Bazi bonke ngezantsi.
Zininzi izizathu ezinokukucaphukisa zibonise iimfazwe ngelixa ulele. Ukuba ukhe wabona naziphi na iimuvi zikaBruce Lee, okanye iifilimu zesenzo ezigcwele ziingxoxo kunye neemfazwe. Umabonwakude usasaza umxholo ngokukhaba kunye neembethi zemihla ngemihla. Ukuba ubukhe wanengxabano esikolweni okanye emsebenzini, unokuba namaphupha amabi angathandekiyo, okanye nokuba ubambe ingqumbo komnye umntu obuphikisana naye kakhulu mva nje. Kule nqaku ndicacisa kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha usilwa.
Kodwa kukuba kufuneka uthathe ingqalelo kwezinye izinto ezibalulekileyo ukuze ufumane ifayile ye intsingiselo yamaphupha, ezinje ngamava akho kwimihla yokugqibela okanye umxholo kunye nokuziphatha okubonisileyo ephupheni. Umzekelo, ukubukela umlo wasesitalatweni akuthethi into enye nokuxabana ekhaya neqabane lakho, okanye umzalwana. Yintoni egqithisile, kungangumlo phakathi kwezilwanyana ezinjengezinja, iikati, umqhagi okanye iinkunzi zeenkomo. Kuninzi ukutolika kwaye yile nto uza kuyifunda ngokulandelayo.
Ukuba ufuna ukwazi yonke into malunga Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha malunga nokukhulelwa?, kweli nqaku siza kuzama ukuba ngqo njengoko kunokwenzeka. Ukukhulelwa lelinye lawona maxesha abalulekileyo ebomini bomfazi. Unobomi obuza ngaphakathi kuwe kwaye buya kutshintsha ubomi bakho ngonaphakade. Njengoko inqanaba elibaluleke kangaka, ayiqhelekanga phupha malunga nokukhulelwaNokuba sele unomntwana wakho ezandleni zakho.
Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ufunde ukutolikwa kwamaphupha, kuya kufuneka wazi ukuba zininzi iimeko ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe. Ayizufana lonto xa sizibona simithi, ngokungathi omnye umntu ukhulelwe. Kananjalo ayizukufana into yokuba ukhulelwe inkwenkwe, intombazana, amawele, abathathu. Konke oku kwahluka kunesizathu sokubakho kwaye iya kuba yinto ekuya kufuneka siyifundile ukufumana intsingiselo ngqo.