Ngabantwana abancinci abadla ngokuba nabo Ukuphindaphinda amaphupha kunye neziporho. Bahlala njengezinto ezingamaphupha ngaphandle komzimba, zinamashiti amhlophe kwaye ziyavuza. Ukuba inkwenkwe okanye intombazana ibone enye ephupheni, bayakucinga ukuba ikwinyani kwaye baya kucela abazali babo ukuba bashiye ukukhanya kweholo, bajonge kwiikhabhathi okanye phantsi kwebhedi ukujonga ukuba akukho nto na.
La maphupha aqheleke kakhulu ekuzeni kokusa, elilixesha apho ingqondo ikhululeke ngokwaneleyo ukuba ingaphuphuma umbono wentloko yendlu. Nangona kunjalo, kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba eli phupha aliphindaphindiwe ebantwaneni kuphela kodwa likwachaphazela nabantu abadala abaninzi kunokuba ucinga. Ukuba kuye kwenzeka nakuwe, kufuneka uyazi kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha iziporho.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha iziporho?
Ngokwesiqhelo xa amantombazana ephupha iziporho inxulumene nemovie ethile eyoyikisayo abazibonileyo ngaphambi kokuba balale. Kwishumi elivisayo kusenokwenzeka ukuba bebethetha nabahlobo babo malunga nezihloko ezihamba kunye, malunga nezilo, malunga ne-ouijas, malunga noMtyholi (apha uya kuba nomdla wokufunda malunga phupha usathana). Njengoko la maphupha ekhula, aya kunyamalala kancinci kancinci. Iinjongo zabazali kukufundisa abantwana babo ukuba iziporho azikho, kwaye zibubungqina bengqondo yabo ekwiphupha.
Kodwa ukuba ngumntu omdala ophupha iziporho, kwaye ukuba sithetha ngephupha eliphindaphindayo, kunyanzelekile ukuba sijonge eyona ntsingiselo kwaye siqwalasele imeko esiboniswa yingqondo yethu, kuba ukutolikwa kunokwahluka kakhulu. Nazi ezinye zeemeko eziqhelekileyo.
Iphupha leziporho ongaziboniyo
Ukuba uphuphe iziporho ongaziboniyo kwaye ezineenjongo ezimbi, ezi zinto zintsonkothileyo ezinemvelaphi engathandabuzekiyo yimeko efana nephupha uloyiko ojamelene nalo imihla ngemihla, okanye banokuba ngabantu abanomona ngenxa yoko bafuna ukukwenzakalisa, ukukungcatsha ungakhange uqaphele. Ziidemon eziya kuzama ukukoyikisa, ezizakwenza ukuba uhlale ulumkile, ukuze ungathobisi kude kube kugqityiwe ingxaki. Ukuba ubusuku obubi buba yinto ephindaphindayo, kuya kufuneka ucinge ngento engalunganga kwaye ufune uncedo kwisangqa sabahlobo bakho, okanye, kwiimeko ezigabadeleyo, jika uye kwiingcali zengqondo.
Ukuphupha iziporho endlwini yakho
Ukuba uphuphe ukuba iziporho zingena endlwini yakho, okanye mhlawumbi indlu obuhlala kuyo xa wawusengumntwana, liphupha elinzima noko. Kule meko isiporho nguwe kwaye uziva ungonwabanga ngenxa yamaxesha omnandi okhe wahlala apho, ubakhumbula kakhulu.
Isenokwenzeka ukuba ushiye into oyenzayo kunye nento ekufuneka uyilungisile ngexesha elithile. Oku kuqhelekile kubantu abangakhange bahambelane nesangqa sabo sabazana. Uya kuba nakho ukwazi kuphela intsingiselo ngqo yephupha.
Iphupha malunga neziporho ezilungileyo
Eli phupha linentsingiselo elungileyo, ingqondo yakho ikunceda ukuba ukhumbule loo mntu ubumxabisile, njengomkhulu, umalume, utata, abantakwenu. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ubhubhe, ungaphoswa ngala maxesha apho nonke nidlale kunye, apho bakufundise ukuba bunjani ubomi, nditsho nemilo yabo xa bengakuphathanga kakuhle.
Ukuphupha umntu oswelekileyo ekwimo yesiporho
Kwimeko apho umntu ophuphe ngaye eswelekile, kuyafana nenyani yokuba uyamkhumbula kwaye ungathanda ukuba ndibekho ecaleni kwakho.
Iphupha malunga neziporho ezimbi
Olona toliko luqhelekileyo lwamaphupha kunye neziporho ezimbi ezizama ukukwenzakalisa kukuba unguye ukukhumbula umntu wobuntwana owayemoyika. Mhlawumbi utata wakho wakubetha okanye ootitshala bakho baziphatha kakubi nawe kwaye sesona sizathu sengxaki.
Iziporho ezizama ukukoyikisa
Xa uphupha ngesiporho esizama ukukoyikisa, sinokuchazwa njengokuthi ukuqonda kwakho kuyakuxwayisa Kuya kufuneka utshintshe into ebalulekileyo ebomini bakho kwaye ufuna ukuba uhambe kwaye uyenze ngokukhawuleza. Cinga ukuba ayilunganga entlokweni yakho, ukuba ufuna ukutshintsha imisebenzi okanye uye kuhlala kwesinye isixeko kuba umzimba nengqondo yakho ziyakudinga kwaye zikuthumela imiqondiso.
