Kule posi silungiselele ulwazi oluninzi kangangoko malunga nokuba yintoni kuthetha ukuphupha ulila. Ukuba ungumntu ontununtunu, owangenisayo, okufumanisa kunzima ukubonisa iimvakalelo zakho, amaphupha okukhala kunokuba yinto eqhelekileyo, kuba yindlela yokubonisa ebusuku into ongenakuyibonisa kubomi bakho bemini. Ayisiyonto ilusizi, awunyanzelekanga ukuba uhambe ngexesha elibi ukuze ubenamaphupha. Kungenzeka ukuba unomntwana, okanye ulala nomntwana omncinci, kwaye ubusuku bonke uvuka ulila.
Oku kuyenza phupha ulila ube yinto eqhelekileyo. Kodwa ukuba liphupha elinikwa ngaphandle kwemvumelwano okanye isizathu, kuya kufuneka lifundwe. Okokuqala, kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba intsingiselo yephupha iya kwahluka kakhulu kuxhomekeke kwiinkcukacha zayo.
Iya kwahluka ngokusekwe kumzuzu othile okhoyo kunye nemifanekiso ekhutshwe yingqondo. Ayizukuthetha okufanayo ukulila kakhulu ngaphandle kwesizathu, kunokuba emva kokuphulukana nomntu okhethekileyo (Ungafunda malunga kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ungasekhoyo), okanye ukulahlekelwa ngumlingani wakho (kufuneka ufunde kabanzi malunga phupha malunga neqabane lakho langaphambili), umyeni wakho okanye isilwanyana sakho sasekhaya. Masizibeke kwimeko
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ulila?
Ukuba kuye kwafuneka ujongane neli phupha loyikisayo, kungxamisekile ukufumana isizathu sokufumanisa ukuba kutheni uqale ukukhala ngaloo ndlela okanye ngenxa yokuba omnye umntu ekhalile phambi kwakho. Ukuba ufumene iindaba ezimbi okanye ushiye neqabane lakho kwaye awuchaphazelekanga, unokuba usabela ephupheni.
Kunokwenzeka okufanayo ukuba Ufumene imali obungayilindelanga okanye ukuba bawonyusile umvuzo wakho ... kule meko ukulila kuya kuba lulonwabo.
Ukukuqonda oku, kubalulekile ukuba sihlalutye imeko ebangele ukuba kwenzeke ntoni. Unokwenza nokubhala okufutshane kwayo yonke into eyenzekileyo kuwe kwiintsuku ezidlulileyo. Ngaphandle kokuqhubela phambili, funda eminye yemizekelo yokufumana olona lwimi luchanekileyo kunokwenzeka.
Ukuphupha ulila ungathuthuzeleki
Ukuba uphupha ulila ungathuthuzeleki ngenxa yokuba ufumene isaziso sezinye iindaba ezimbi, kuqhelekile ukuba kunxulumene noko Ufumene iindaba ezimbi ngokulinganayo kubomi bokwenyani. Ngokucacileyo, oko kuthetha ukuba le nkxalabo ibaluleke kakhulu kunokuba ibonakala, ukuba ibe yingxaki engakuvumeli ukuba uphumle ngokufanelekileyo.
Inokuba yenye into encinci yentloko njengempikiswano phakathi kwabahlobo okanye abazalwana. Kodwa inokuba yinto enzulu njengokufa komntu omthandayo, ukugxothwa kwiziko lakho lokufunda, ukuba iqabane lakho alithembekanga (ungafunda ukuba lithetha ntoni iphupha lokungathembeki) kunye nezinye iindlela ezininzi.
Iphupha lokuphalaza iinyembezi ezininzi
Ngaba uphalaze iinyembezi ezininzi ephupheni? Ukhale kakhulu ephupheni ude uvuke uneenyembezi zokwenene? Mhlawumbi "isikrweqe" sakho sokujongana nobomi asiloncedo njengoko ucinga. Akufanele uvumele ukukhathazeka kukuhlise. Ukuba ufuna uncedo, ungaya kubona ilungu losapho olithembekileyo okanye umhlobo. Kodwa ukuba ufuna enye into kuba ityala lakho linokukhokelela kuxinzelelo, kuya kufuneka ufune uncedo lobuchwephesha kwezengqondo.
Nokuba kunganjani na, kuya kufuneka ufumane indlela yokuwukhupha umsindo onawo ngaphakathi.
Ukuphupha ulilela uthando
Ukhalele uthando? Ukuba ephupheni lakho ubukhala ngenxa yokugula kwaye uzive ungenakunceda ngako, ukutolikwa kuyabonakala: oku kuyenzeka kuwe kubomi bokwenyani. Kungenzeka, usilele kubudlelwane obudlulileyo okanye uyasilela ngoku. Mhlawumbi ufumene iinkcukacha ezithile ezikwenza ucinge ukuba iqabane lakho alikuthandi okanye uphupha ukuba ufuna ukubuyelana ne ex yakho.
Mhlawumbi nguwe ongamthandiyo. Kuya kufuneka ujonge umkhombandlela oza kuwunika ubudlelwane, kuba isenokungalandeli indlela eyiyo.
Ezinye iintsingiselo zokuphupha ukhala
Wakhe waphupha apho wawukhala khona? Ngaba zazikhala ezi ntlungu? Uzive njani wakususa wonke umsindo ngaphakathi? Bonke abalandeli bale bhulogi bangathanda ukwazi iphupha kunye neenkcukacha ezinxulumene nalo. Inokukunceda ngamaphupha akho.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha i-ex yam ibuyela kum? Ndiyathemba njalo kodwa ekugqibeleni akabuyi ndilila kakhulu ngokungabuyi