Iphupha lokuzonwabisa Ikwayenye yemixholo ephindaphindwe kaninzi. Nangona ingumxholo oqhelekileyo, kuyinyani ukuba ibandakanya onke la maxesha agcwele ubumnandi, uvuyo kunye neenkumbulo ezintle. Ke ukuba bayavela emaphupheni ethu, kungenxa yokuba banento abanokuyithetha kuthi.
Ke lixesha lokuba sithethe ngala matheko okanye iihambo sizibonayo emaphupheni, malunga nolonwabo kunye nemidlalo okanye iindlela zokuzonwabisa ezibonakala ngamanye amaxesha kwaye esingafumani ntsingiselo inkulu. Ngaba uyafuna ukwazi yonke into abaza kukuxelela yona kunye ne Intsingiselo yokuphupha ngokuzonwabisa?
Inyani yile yokuba ukuphupha ulonwabo kubandakanya imisebenzi eyahlukeneyo. Ngokwesiqhelo kufuneka Hlalutya iimvakalelo esizibonayo ephupheni. Kuba iya kuba ngabo abatyhila eyona ntsingiselo yokuqikelela kuthi. Kodwa singatsho ukuba ezi ndidi zamaphupha zihlala zisenza sicacelwe ngumnqweno wokuba senze into kwaye asisoloko siphumelela. Kwelinye icala, banokuthetha notshintsho kubomi bethu, kodwa akusoloko kukho inqanaba lokuphelelwa lithemba kutoliko. Njengoko sisitsho, inkcukacha nganye kuya kufuneka ihlalutywe kancinci ukuze ichane ngakumbi.
Ukuba uphupha lonto wonwaba nabahlobo bakho Kwaye abantu abasondeleyo bayafana nenyaniso yokuba wonwabile ngenene ngobuhlobo obukhethileyo. Kodwa ukuba olu lonwabo lubekwe nabantu abangaziwayo nakwindawo yokuphumla okanye yeholide, oko kuthetha ukuba kuya kubakho olunye utshintsho ebomini bakho, kodwa akukho mfuneko yokuba ibe yinto embi. Ukuba ubona abanye abantu bonwabile kodwa wena ungabinaso, emva koko unoxinzelelo oluninzi, untywiliselwe kweminye imicimbi yomsebenzi kwaye abakushiyi ixesha lakho. Kuya kufuneka uzame ukuyikhangela!
Ukuba ipati yeyosapho, ke oko kuthetha ukuba uyalukhumbula usapho lwakho kunye nabo bakufutshane kuwe, ke lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuhlangana kwakhona. Ukuba itheko lasemva komtshato, ubutyebi buza kunkqonkqoza emnyango.
Ewe, ukuba uphupha ngetheko lokuzalwa, oko kuthetha ukuba ufikelela kwiinjongo kwaye, nangona unezinye ezizayo, uziva wonelisekile ngempumelelo yakho. Ukuba ipati yeyamakhwenkwe namantombazana amancinci, inokubonisa ukuba umntu omtsha ungena ebomini bakho, nokuba kungendlela yobuhlobo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, phupha udanise ihlala ihleli kakuhle. Yindlela yokubonisa ukuba sonwabile kwaye silungelelene ebomini bethu. Ukuba umema umntu ukuba adanise nawe, uthatha amanyathelo kwaye ngawona akuhambisayo. Ngelixa udanisa nomntu ongamaziyo, usaswele umntu oza kwabelana naye ngeyona minyaka yakho.
Iphupha lespa Inika inkululeko kumnqweno wokuba sikwazi ukuphumla. Sihluthi kwaye sijonge indawo yokusabela ukubuyela kumlinganiso wethu.
Ke ukuba unephupha elinje linokuchazwa njengesilumkiso sokuba lixesha lokuphumla. Ukuba siziva sikhululekile xa siphupha ngayo, iyakubonisa ukuba singena kwinkqubo yohlaziyo olupheleleyo.
Kuyinyani ukuba iphupha lokuhamba ineenguqulelo ezininzi. Ukuba uhambo lonwabile ngokwenene, oko ke kuyimbonakaliso yokuba kuya kubakho inzuzo ebomini bakho. Kodwa ukuba ichasene, kuya kubakho ixesha lelahleko, ngakumbi kwilizwe lomsebenzi.
Ewe, ukuba uhambo luhamba ngesikhephe, kuya kufuneka utshintshe ubomi. Ukuba indawo ohambela kuyo ayaziwa kwaye iyakoyikisa kancinci, ke oku kuthetha ukuba kubomi bakho, iintshaba ziyakumela kwaye kufuneka ulumke kakhulu.
Xa siphupha ngeeholide, ukuba siyazonwabela kwaye sikhululekile, inokuthi iguqulelwe njengegama elifanayo lokuphumla. Isidingo sayo, kuba kufuneka sizikhulule kuxinzelelo oluhamba nathi. Ukongeza, oku kubonisa ukuba yonke imihla kufuneka sifumane amaxesha oxolo kunye nenkululeko, ukuze sikwazi ukwenza ngaphezulu kunathi.
Kuya kufuneka kuthiwe phupha ngezipho ihlala ifana nento elungileyo. Ke xa sinika ezi zipho oko kuthetha ukuba siyabakhathalela abo bantu. Ukuba awubabonanga ixesha elide, ngoku lixesha lokwenza into, kuba uyabakhumbula.
Ewe, ukuba uphupha ukuba unikwe izipho, oko kufanekisela impilo entle. Ukuba xa siyivula sibona ibhokisi engenanto, ke imeko yemvakalelo ayidluli ngexesha elimnandi.
Si uphupha ukupeyinta umfanekiso, emva koko ifuzisela ukuba unoxinzelelo olukhulu kodwa kukho izinto ebomini bakho oziphosileyo. Ukuba ludonga olepeyintayo, oko kukuthi utshintsho ebomini luya kubonakala kungekudala, kodwa ziya kudibana nethamsanqa. Ewe, ukuba upeyinta indlu, uya kufumanisa into ebingaziwa. Unokuba nolwalamano neqabane lakho.
Si uphupha ikonsathi, emva koko ibonisa ukuba banokuzisa abantu abatsha ebomini bakho. Ewe kunjalo, akufuneki uthembe utshintsho lokuqala kuzo zonke. Ukuba baninzi abantu ekhonsathini, positivism unkqonkqoza emnyango wakho, into echaseneyo xa sibona ikonsathi enabantu abambalwa kakhulu. Kuba kule meko, ibonisa ukuba amaxesha osizi aya kuvela.
Ufuna ukwazi ukuba yintoni kuthetha ukuphupha ibhayisekile? Iibhayisikile yindlela yokuhamba eye yafumana ukuthandwa kumashumi eminyaka akutshanje. Ziyindlela yokuhamba ngaphandle kokungcolisa indalo, ngelixa uzilolonga kwaye ugcina inkangeleko yakho. Kukho ukutolikwa ngokubanzi, oku kuhlala kunxulunyaniswa nabo bonke abaphuphayo, kodwa kukho ezinye ezingafane zihambe kwaye ezingabalulekanga kangako.
Los amaphupha okuqubha Ngamanye amaxesha ziveliswa ngokuzenzekelayo kwaye zingenzeka nakubani na, kwaye ngokubanzi, zibonisa isidingo sokulumkela indlela oziphethe ngayo. Ukuqubha sisenzo somntu esixhomekeke kutoliko oluninzi. Kwilizwe lamaphupha, abo bantu bahlala bequbha rhoqo kunokwenzeka ukuba banolu hlobo lwamaphupha, kunye nabo banedama lokuya elunxwemeni. Kungenzeka ukuba eli phupha libonakala lingaqhelekanga kuwe okanye ulidibanisa nento oyiphileleyo mva nje.
Nokuba yintoni, uya kuphupha ngento, nokuba awukhumbuli, kwaye loo ngcinga iveliswe kwi-subconscious inentsingiselo enokuchazwa. Kungenxa yoko le nto namhlanje ndibhala eli nqaku malunga namaphupha ahambelana nokuqubha kunye nakho konke ukutolikwa okunokubakho kuxhomekeke kumongo wawo.
Zininzi iindidi zamaphupha, kodwa namhlanje ndiza kukucacisela kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha udanisa. Ayilophupha liqhelekileyo, nangona kunjalo, uya kuba nalo ngexesha elithile kwaye kuxhomekeke kwimeko kunye neemeko ezenzeka kuyo, iya kuba neentsingiselo ezahlukeneyo ozokwazi apha ngezantsi. Njengomgaqo jikelele, xa uphupha umdaniso, utolikwa njenge Inkululeko yokuzivaKungenxa yoko le nto usiya kwisingqi somculo, ngokungathi yonke into ihamba. Umzuzwana wokulingana kwaye uziva ukhululekile kunye nawe. Ngamafutshane, wenza kakuhle emsebenzini, nosapho, nakwisondo. Kodwa kukho ezinye iintsingiselo ekufuneka uyazi.
Namhlanje siza kugxila ekufundeni ukuba yintoni kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha u-Facebook. Iinethiwekhi zentlalo eziyinxalenye yobomi bethu. Basinceda ukuba sifunde ngobomi babanye abantu, sinxibelelane kwaye sidibane nabantu abatsha. Kukwabaluleke kakhulu kwinqanaba lobungcali, kuba iibrand zenza intengiso yazo yaziwe ngezi ndlela. Zendele ezingqondweni zethu ngokungathi liphupha ngabo.
Ukutolikwa kweli phupha kuya kuxhomekeka kwinto oyibonayo. Ayizukuba nentsingiselo efanayo ukuphupha ufumana isicelo sobuhlobo kuFacebook, umntu athethe nawe okanye ucime ubuhlobo kwakudala. Siza kufunda ezona nkolelo zinokwenzeka.
Xa sonwabile kakhulu, ifikile impelaveki, sigqibe iimviwo zethu okanye sineholide emsebenzini ... abaninzi bethu bayangena imo yepati. Kwaye kukho imibhiyozo ekhethekileyo efana nemitshato, imihla yokuzalwa okanye imithendeleko yelali apho itheko lifuna ukuba linikwe konke nabahlobo. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha siphupha ngepati ngaphandle kwesizathu kwaye kulapho kuya kufuneka ulifunde eli nqaku apho ndicacisa khona Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ipati.
Abantu abaninzi basebenzisa naliphi na ithuba lokuyibhiyozela njengoko kufanelekile. Phakathi kwabo ukuvalelisa umhlobo oza kuhlala phesheya, xa sifumana umxholo esicinga ukuba unqunyanyisiwe okanye ukunyuselwa okuguqulela kumvuzo ongcono kunye nemali eninzi epokothweni.