Abaninzi bayakholelwa kuloo nto phupha uhamba ze ibonisa inkxalabo yesini. Ngokwenyani, intsingiselo yephupha lobunqunu inxulumene nobuntu bethu ngokubanzi. Ukufumana ukutolikwa okuthe ngqo kuya kufuneka uyazi iinkcukacha zephupha kunye neemvakalelo zakho kulo. Makhe ndikucacisele.
Umzekelo, ayifani ukuba xa uphupha ubunqunu uneentloni okanye uyoyika, okuthetha ukuba ungalawuleka kwaye uvumele abanye bakuphembelele. Kwakhona, eli phupha lenzeka kubantu abazama ukufezekisa yonke into, ithini ngabo loo nto azikhuselekanga kuba abaze bawuxabise ngokwaneleyo umsebenzi wabo kwaye i-ego yabo iyahlupheka
Bavakalelwa kukuba abantu baya kubagweba ngendlela engalunganga kwaye abayeki ukwenza utshintsho. Enye into enokwenzeka kukuba i-subconscious ikwenzela imifanekiso yobunqunu ukuba usesichengeni, ukuba woyika ukuzenza isidenge (kuya kwenzeka okufanayo xa uphupha ukuba amazinyo akho ayawa) kwaye ucinga ukuba uyinkaba yehlabathi, ukuba wonke umntu ujonge kuwe elinde ukuba usilele.
Intsingiselo yokuphupha uhamba ze
Ukuba uphupha uhamba ze kodwa awunazimvakalelo zimbi, oko kukuthi, awukhathali nokuba bayakubona, ngoko kuthetha ukuba ukhuselekile kwaye uyazithemba. Unempawu ezenzekelayo, uziva ukhululekile njengokuba unjalo, unyanisekile, unyanisekile, uthembekile kwaye unika uluvo lwakho ngaphandle kwezakhiwo. Ulungile kunxibelelwano kwaye uyakwazi ukuthetha esidlangalaleni.
Ukuphupha abanye abantu abahamba ze
Olunye uhlobo lweli phupha kukuba abanye abantu bahamba ze ecaleni kwakho. Abantu abaninzi bahamba ze kwaye akukho zakhiwo. Itolikwa njengaleyo unokwazi ukunxibelelana nabanye, ukuvelisa izangqa zentlalo ... uyanyamezela, unesisa kwaye unemfesane.
Ukuba ze elunxwemeni unganxibanga
Kuya kuba yinto eqhelekileyo ukuphupha iilwandle ezinganxibanga okanye nokuba uhamba ze kwindawo yokuthenga nabanye abantu abenza ubunqunu. Ukuba le yimeko yakho, sicebisa ukuba Inqaku leentsingiselo zokuphupha malunga neelwandle.
Ndinxibile ndiphupha onqunu
Kwelinye icala, ukuba unxibe kodwa i-subconscious ivusa umntu ohamba ze kwaye ubonakalisa indelelo ngemeko yabo, oko kubonisa ukuba ungumntu ongenalo uvelwanoAwunyamezeli iyantlukwano kwaye kunzima kuwe ukuba uphume kwindawo yakho yokuthuthuzela. Kuya kufuneka uhloniphe abanye ngakumbi, nokuba awufuni kangakanani ukwamkela ukuba yahlukile.
Ukuphupha umntu ohamba ze omthandayo
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba utsala umdla kuloo mntu okanye uneemvakalelo ezintle kubo, oko kuthetha ukuba ulungile kubo, ukuba uyabamkela abanye nangona bengafani nawe. Uyahlonipha kwaye uyanyamezela.
Ukuphupha umntu akhulule
Okokugqibela kunokwenzeka ukuba uphuphe ukuba omnye umntu ukukhulula. Njengesiqhelo inxulunyaniswa nomnqweno wesini onayo nomntu, nangona oko kukwathetha ukungathembi kunye noloyiko lokuthathelwa ingqalelo. Ufumana umbono wokuba bazama ukukungcatsha kwaye benze inzuzo ngawe, ephinda ibonise ukuba sesichengeni kwakho.
Belinjani iphupha lakho ngobunqunu?
Olu hlobo lwamaphupha lwenzeka kwabasetyhini nakumadoda, ngaphandle kwenkcubeko okanye ubudala. Ke ngoko ndingathanda ukuba undixelele kunye nabafundi uziva njani, kwenzeka ntoni kanye kanye ephupheni lakho kwaye sisiphi isigqibo osifumeneyo. Akukho ndlela ingcono yokufunda kunokumamela abanye.
Ividiyo ngentsingiselo yokuphupha uhamba ze
Ukuba eli nqaku phupha uhamba ze, Ndikucebisa ukuba ufunde ezinye ezifanayo kwicandelo le- amaphupha ngonobumba D.
Wayengene kwigumbi elacinywa izibane kunye nendoda engaziwayo. Wangqengqa ebhedini engenayo ihempe, enxibe ibhlukhwe kuphela, ndandiphambi kwebhedi kwaye ndandizokukhulula ihempe yam xa ndiqonda ukuba inja yam ikhona. Ngalo mzuzu ndiyamsusa apho ndimshiye eholweni. Ndibuyele ngaphakathi ndakhulula ihempe kwakhona. Yayisisiphelo sephupha elo. Kuko konke oku andinankwenkwe, kodwa naye ndaziva ndikhululekile.
Ndiphuphe ndivalelwa ndize ze basibiza ukuba sizotya kodwa ndabaleka ndayokhangela iimpahla zam kodwa andazifumana
Ndizophuma endlini yam ndisiya esitalatweni ze, bekukho abantu endibaziyo kwaye ndingxamele ukunxiba xa ndithetha naba bantu.
Khange ndizive ndinentloni okanye ndisoyika, bekufana nento eqhelekileyo.
Ayiloxesha lokuqala ukuba ndiphuphe ndihamba ze.
Ndiphuphe ndihamba netshomi yam estratweni endiwola ndaziva ndinentloni nje kancinci ndinganxibanga kodwa ukwazi ukuba ukunye naye ndaziva ndikhuselekile wandibuza ukuba andinantloni zokumgona?
Ndiphuphe umhlobo wam sele edlulile (amathumbu akhe aqhuma) ephupheni wayehleli ze ze wonwabile, bendihleli emilenzeni, siqhula sithi yonke into ibiyindawo yeqonga ngokubhekisele ekuswelekeni kwakhe kwaye ebephila, kodwa ekugqibeleni sazi ukuba liphupha, ndamgona ndaxolisa ngokungayi emngcwabeni wakhe kodwa ngenxa yalonto wayesele enxibe iimpahla zakhe nam ngokunjalo, ndithe xa ndimwola wathi mandizihoye ngoba yavakala ukuba izisa ingxaki namathumbu am.
Ndaphupha ngathi ndihamba ze, andizange ndizive nyhani ke andikhathali nokuba abantu bandibona ngaphambili, ndabelana ngovuyo nomntu wonke, ndikhwela ibhayisekile, ndatya ndikhululekile kunye nawo wonke umntu!
Ndiphuphe ukuba ndilapho umchebi wezinwele elinde ithuba lam lokucheba iinwele, kodwa into engaqhelekanga yokuba ndihamba ze kodwa hayi ukuba undibone ndihamba ngathi kufana nokwazi ukuba ndihamba ze umgcini wezinwele wandibona ndingenzi senzo Ukungaqhelekanga endandihleli kwileli kunye netafile yendawo wandibiza ukuba ndichebe iinwele zam kwaye ndizibona ndize ze ndivukile
Ndihleli nomhlobo wam esiya echibini kwaye bendinxibe ihempe kunye ne shor kodwa xa sifika echibini ndafika ndingenayo ihempe ndizogquma amabele ngaphandle kwentloni kwaye umhlobo wam wathi ayinamsebenzi.
Ndiphuphe ndikwindawo enesithukuthezi kancinci kodwa kukho amagumbi okuhlambela kawonke-wonke ndikhulule ndihlamba kodwa ndingaphandle kwegumbi lokuhlambela kwabe kufika umntu omaziyo ephupheni kuba ndenza ngathi ndiyamsizela. andibone ndihamba ze, eyona nto ikhoyo kukuba andizange ndazisola Ebomini andimazi. ndaye ndahamba ndayohlamba nge shampoo yomzimba eyayinuka kamnandi ndaziva ndi enjoyer ukuhlamba ☺️.. Ndithe ndisuka apho ndabona uboss wam endibona kodwa uhleli yedwa ndaqhubeka nohlamba ngathi akhonto ngaphandle kwam ndaziva. engakhululekanga nokungamncedi, uboss wam yichef kwaye yindoda endala kwaye yindlela endiphupha ngayo.?
Ndiphuphe i ex yam siyofika endlini apho bekungekho tanki lamanzi ndithathe ibhakethi elinombhobho wokuligcwalisa ngokungathi yitanki lamanzi ngequbuliso ndizokufika kwigumbi lokuhlala laloo ndlu ngasendleleni bekungahlalwa mntu, bendizombona ex wam ehamba ze ndithathe itawuli ndiyomisa emalungeni nasemilenzeni, bendifuna ukumgquma kwaye, njengosizi, undixelele ukuba utyebile (in Ubomi bokwenyani obabuhlala buba sisifo sakhe) ndamxelela ukuba nam ndityebile anayo
Ndiphuphe ndihamba ezitalatweni kwaye ndiqala ukukhulula, bendikunye nomntu kwaye ndiyenze njengeqhula. Ndathi ndihamba ndikhumbula ndidibana nabantu abaliqela, abanye babendazi kwaye benditsalela umnxeba, abanye babeneentloni, kwaye bonke abantu abangabaziyo bahleka. Yonke indawo apho bendihamba khona bebesela kwaye betshaya intsangu, wonke umntu undimemele kuloo nto kwaye khange ndisebenzise iintsuku ezingama-20.
Ndiphuphe ndifika emlanjeni onamanzi acwebezelayo kwaye bebaninzi abantu abahlambayo apho kwaye ndiye ndayohlamba xa ndingena emlanjeni ndiyaziqonda ukuba ndihamba ze kodwa okwangoku akwenzekanga nto kwaye kwafika indoda entle mna kwasekuqaleni ndaziva ndonwabile kodwa wabe engasandicinezeli ngakumbi nangakumbi ndade ndaziva ndisoyika kakhulu ukuba indoda ifuna ukundixhaphaza kwaye ngaphandle kwalapho kuvela umntwana xa loo ndoda imbona wakhwaza njengedemon kwaye angakwazi ndikhulule umntwana wayengu Msindisi wam
Ndiphuphe ndihleli nabanye abantu, andazi noba abantwana bam babekhona na kodwa ukhona omnye endingamaziyo, ndambonisa iindawo endizithandayo wandixelela ukuba yincasa yomnye umntu hayi. eyam ndaziva ndingakhululekanga kuba yayingeyiyo iNyaniso emva koko ndabona umlambo onamandla kakhulu kodwa unetyuwa eninzi, amagaqa etyuwa ayesihla, emacaleni yonke into yenziwe ngetyuwa, ndandifuna ukungena kodwa ndandingena. esoyika ngenxa yokuqukuqela, kwathi kusenjalo kwadlula abantu abaninzi ngaselunxwemeni lomlambo emanzini, kwadlula igqiyazana elibhitye kakhulu ndathi xa libhitye kangaka umlambo ungamthathi, ndingakwazi. nam ke ndabona itshomi yonyana wam yahamba akasilinda andikho sure noba wahamba nonyana wam kodwa wonke umntu ebehamba ngecala elinye ngasemlanjeni ndazibona sendim. nqunu nenkwenkwe ayizange iwasuse amehlo akhe kum ndaqala ndaziva ndingakhululekanga, ndahamba ndayokunxiba impahla sasiyishiye ngathi kumqolomba omkhulu kanye kanye umntu owenze umzimba? Ecaleni kwempahla ndiye ndabuza ukuba ibingubani, ndicinga ukuba ngomnye wabantwana bam.
Ndiphuphe umamazala ehamba ze nasegumbini athi phakathi kwakhe athi mandize ebhedini
Ndiphuphe intombi endandithandana nayo ukuba sahlukana kwiminyaka emi-2 eyadlulayo ndandihamba ngesitrato emva koko ndambona ndabaleka ndaya kumhlangabeza ebaleka eyokuzimela kwigumbi lokuhlambela elikhulu xa ndibona iimpahla zakhe zijinga kumnyango wangaphambili kwaye wayeze ze kwaye esoyika kwaye ezifihle kum.
Emva koko ndamgona saza kumnqweno wokulala ngesondo ndaphakama ndavuka ngesiqalo.
Intsingiselo nceda.
Gracias
Ndiphuphe ndihamba ze ndinyuka kwizinyuko zesikolo sam, bekukho abantu ababini bendijongile kodwa bendingoyikiswa okanye nantoni na, ngokuchaseneyo ndaziva ndikhululekile ngomzimba wam ohamba ze, kodwa ukufika kwam kwizinyuko yiya kwizinyuko ezilandelayo ngequbuliso ndaziva ndinosizi ngento ayenzayo.
Molo.Ngobusuku bokugqibela ndiphuphe ndihamba nomama wam kwaye ngequbuliso ndihamba ze kwaye nabanye abantu banxibe, sihamba kunye, bekukho iindawo ezininzi zokuthengisa kwaye bendiziva ukuba kufuneka ndinxibe kodwa kwangaxeshanye ixesha andiziva ndingonwabanga ukuhamba ze ngoluhlobo.
Ndikhumbula ndithenga ipanty ndizonxiba yona ndinxibe impahla yangaphantsi kuphela.
Ndiphuphe ndivuka ngesiquphe ndikwi gumbi lehotele, njengoko bendisiva ukuba umhlobo wam (andimazi ebomini bokwenyani) ebetshixa umnyango wegumbi, embiza ngegama kwaye akandihoya wabuza kum. phezulu, ndiye ndaphakama ndizogquma umphambili ngetawuli, kuba bendize ze ngokupheleleyo kwaye indoda esebenza ehotele indimamele yandivulela umnyango emva koko ndambuza ukuba umbonile umhlobo wam waphendula Ewe ewe, ukuba ebemke "nesizalwane sakhe" kuba umlingane wakhe urhoxisile umtshato wakhe.
Molweni, ndiphuphe, umntu endisebenza naye, singena endlini kuvulwe umnyango sangena apho sayophumla kodwa umnikazi wafika kodwa ndakwazi ukumka kwaye neqabane lam alizange lize emva kwewindow elele ze. ebhedini kwaye umnikazi oze ze eme ecaleni kwakhe kwaye uzakumkhwaza xa elungile andiphendule ukuba ulungile na aphendule umnini wale ndlu ndathi makangenise wangena. Ndifuna ukuthetha ukuba ndilindele impendulo ekhawulezileyo enkosi
Ephupheni lam bendikwindawo kawonke-wonke, kwakukhangeleka ngathi yi-atrium okanye intendelezo engaphakathi yeholo lesixeko. Kwafuneka ndiqokelele amaxwebhu ndihambise amanye malunga nosana olungelolwam, enyanisweni umntwana wayesezandleni zomfundisi.
Ndazibona ndivula iingcango, 2, kwaye ndandize ze ukusuka esinqeni ukuya phezulu. Khange ndizive kakubi. Ndihambe ngokukhuselekileyo kwindawo kawonke-wonke kwaye bekukho abantu abaliqela abothukileyo.
Emva koko ndaye ndathatha itanki emhlophe ephezulu, endaziyo ukuba nayo ayifanelekanga, kodwa andikhathali, kwaye ndiza kuyibeka ukuze bangaziva bengonwabanga kwaye bagqibe amaphepha endikhe ndadlula kuwo.
Abantu awayethetha nabo yayingabasemagunyeni, uceba (endimaziyo ngenene) kunye nommeli wenkonzo, kodwa hayi umbingeleli oqhelekileyo.
Ndiphuphe ugqirha wam wamazinyo endikhulula phambi kwam ndayohlamba ndabe ndingafuni andibone, uzame ukuvala umnyango ngalamzuzu waqonda lento ndiyenzayo waqalisa ukunxiba ndafika nje phandle xa ndimbona enxibe. Ingaba ithetha ntoni?
Ndiphuphe ugqirha wam wamazinyo endikhulula phambi kwam ndayohlamba ndabe ndingafuni andibone, uzame ukuvala umnyango ngalamzuzu waqonda lento ndiyenzayo waqalisa ukunxiba ndafika nje phandle xa ndimbona enxibe. Ingaba ithetha ntoni?
Ndiphuphe ndiseziko endingazange ndikubone ngaphambili, apho bebesenza iseshoni yokufota nenye inkwenkwe (enye yeecruhs zam okanye nantoni na ebhaliweyo hahah) apho bendinxibe lonke ixesha kodwa bekukho Umzuzwana apho ndiqale khona ukukhulula kwaye naye kwaye saqhubeka neefoto ezinganxibanga ukuba ukuba ezi zinto bezingaphezulu melee hahahahhaah
Ndiphuphe ndisiya edolophini ahlala kuyo umama nalapho ndihlala khona. Ndandiye ndifike ngenj 'ixukuxa, kwaye ngenxa yobhubhane ndandisusa iingubo zam ndize ndibaleke ngesitrato ndifuna ukuya ekhaya, kwaye ndakhetha esiphi isitalato endiza kudlula apho ndingayi kuba yingozi kangako, umama wafika kumama ndlu, umnyango uvulwe isiqingatha ndangena kwaye umama ukhona kunye nobhuti. Kwaye ndicela iimpahla ndingene bebengalindelanga mna.
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Ndithi gqi estratweni ndinxibile wandileqa umfana sahamba siliqela, ndifuna uyohlamba lomfana umane endileqa akandishiyi, wenza ubuso obubi azame ukundibamba. ugrogrisa ngokukhulula. Andiyithandi kakhulu?
Ndiphuphe usisi wam emema abantu abaninzi endlini abangabahlobo bakhe, (andibazi) ndize ndiye ezinyaweni zam kwaye ndibone amantombazana amabini endiqala ukuthetha nawo ngebhedi yam, kwaye ndenze njani Ndaphakama ndishushu kakhulu ukuyokuvula umoya (kuyo yonke le nto isibane besicinyiwe kwaye bekukho nabanye abafana ababini egumbini) xa ndivula umoya ndiyaqonda ukuba ndikwiibunu zam kwaye ihempe yam ibishiyiwe. ibhedi, khange ndizive tu shame, bendihleka kakhulu, kwaye bendifuna ukuzogquma ndizifumanele ihempe, ndiyifumene kwangoko ke ndanxiba kwaye bendizolile
Ndiphuphe umfazi endimaziyo elele ze ebhafini yekhaya lam ndaziva ndinomona ephupheni lam kuba ndicinga ukuba ebehleli nomyeni wam, yiyo lonto ndilapho.
Ndiphuphe ndilala ne ex-partner yam, sentimental wafika kwaphuma isidoda esininzi ndazama ukuyifaka ecousin yam but andakwazi so bendimncamisa qho, ngalamzuzu ndibhaqe usisi ejonge. ngathi sihamba ze, sinomsindo kakhulu