Kunqabile kakhulu ukuba sibe nempembelelo kumaphupha. Ngesi sizathu, sihlala sizibona sisenza izinto ezinokuthi zenzeke mihla le, okanye ezinye ezingenakwenzeka ngokupheleleyo kubomi bokwenyani. Kule meko, ukuphupha ibhanana akunakwenzeka. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba uyayidla, uyayibona, uyithenge, okanye inombala othile.
Kodwa xa uvuka kwelo phupha, ngaba yinto yokuqala oyikhumbulayo leyo? Ngoko ke kukho intsingiselo eya kuxhomekeka kuhlobo lwebhanana kunye nento eyenzekayo. Kuthekani ukuba sikuncede ukuba uyiqonde?
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ibhanana
Ngokubanzi ukuphupha ibhanana yinto enhle kwaye enhle. Kuthetha ukuba amandla alungileyo aya kufika kwaye kuya kubakho utshintsho ebomini bakho ukuba lubengcono, into eya kukuvuselela kwaye yenza ukuba loo mizuzu yokudodobala onokuthi ubandezeleke (okanye i-conformism) iphele.
Kodwa lumka, kodwa ayingawo onke amaphupha anento yokwenza nebhanana aya kuba alungile. Kukho amaxesha apho i-subconscious yakho ikunika isilumkiso sokuba kukho into engalunganga. Ke kuthekani malunga nokujonga iimeko ezahlukeneyo kwaye sichaze ukuba zithetha ntoni?
Iphupha lebhanana eluhlaza
Njengoko uyazi, xa iibhanana zingekavuthwa zinesikhumba esiluhlaza kwaye ukuba ngaba zizinto ezimelwe kwiphupha lakho, kufuneka wazi ukuba ihambelana nombala ngokwawo. Uhlaza ngumbala wokuzola, wokuzola kunye nesimo sengqondo esilungileyo.
Ngoko ke, ukuba uphupha iibhanana eziluhlaza oko kuthetha ukuba uzolile kwaye uzolileukuba into oyenzayo ikwenza uzive ulungile. Oku kuthetha ukuba awujonganga ukulwa nosapho lwakho okanye iqabane lakho kwaye, ukuba kukho, unakho ukukuthatha ngokuzolileyo ukuzama ukuzisombulula ngaphandle kokutsalwa ziimvakalelo.
Sisenokuthi kukukhula okuphezulu, ekubeni ukwazi ukucinga izinto ngokuzolileyo uze wenze okufanayo. Ingxaki kukuba olu nzolo lunokukhokelela ekumeni, ukuba ungafuni ukuthatha umngcipheko okanye ukuthatha ithuba lokufumana ithuba lokoyika ukuba ezo zigqibo ziyakuthatha uxolo lwakho lwengqondo.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ibhanana evuthiweyo?
Ukuba ungumthandi webhanana, uya kuyazi ukuba xa ikwincopho yayo, phakathi kokuvuthwa kunye nohlaza, kuxa uyifumanisa imnandi kakhulu. Kodwa kule meko, kuthekani ukuba uphupha ibhanana elivuthiweyo?
Sisilumkiso sokuba kukho into entle ezayo, kodwa ikwabandakanya uxanduva olukhulu.. Isenokuba lutshintsho olutsha lomsebenzi, ukunyuselwa umvuzo, okanye enye imeko.
olo tshintsho lutsha zifuna ukuba uziqhelanise kwaye uthathe uxanduva ngakumbi. Ngoko kufuneka uthabathe lula.
Ngoku, ukuba umntu ophupha iibhanana ezivuthiweyo ngumfazi, kunjalo ibonisa ukuba kukho isigqibo ekufuneka senziwe ngombandela othile usapho, uhambo, umsebenzi, njl. Kwaye ezo zigqibo ziya kuba nefuthe kuphuhliso lwabo lobuchwephesha kunye nolomntu.
Phupha usitya ibhanana
Ngaba ukhe waphupha ukuba utya ibhanana? Xa ngokwenene siyitya, kwaye ilungile, siziva silungile. Yaye kuya kwenzeka kanye loo nto xa uyitya ephupheni. Ibonisa ukuba indlela oyikhethileyo, kwaye ubomi bakho ngokubanzi, bulungile kwaye usebenzise onke amathuba ebesiza kuwe ngokuchanekileyo.
Ngumvuzo wakho konke ukuzincama okwenzileyo ukuza kuthi ga kwelo nqanaba.
Phupha ngeebhanana ezityheli
Ukuba endaweni eluhlaza oko ubonayo kwiphupha lakho kukho iibhanana eziphuzi, Ukongeza ekubeni ulungile, inyani yeyokuba ikwanayo nenqaku le-negativity.
Kwaye kukuba, ephupheni, iibhanana ezityheli ziluphawu lolonwabo olukhulu. Kukho into eza kusondela eyakukwenza wonwabe kakhulu, kodwa nguwe ekufuneka wamkele olo lonwabo. Nangona kunjalo, kuloo meko uya kuba kumda phakathi kolonwabo kunye nosizi. Kuba ngathi uyafuna kodwa kwelinye icala uyazisola okanye uvakalelwa kukuba kufuneka ushiye ngasemva into oyithandayo.
Ingaba luthando olutsha, ithuba lomsebenzi, iprojekthi entsha ... Ukuqwalasela ukuba iibhanana eziphuzi ziyimpawu ye-positivism, kufuneka uqalise ulonwabo kwaye ushiye ukudabuka emva.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha iibhanana ezinkulu?
Ngokuqhelekileyo ubungakanani bebhanana abukho bukhulu kakhulu. Kodwa, njengoko uyazi, ephupheni lakho nantoni na inokwenzeka. Kwaye kule meko, kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha iibhanana ezinkulu? Ngaba ilungile okanye imbi?
Kuya kufuneka wazi ukuba ubungakanani bebhanana emaphupheni akho buya kuxhomekeka kwisimo sakho sengqondo. Ukuba oku kulungile, iibhanana ziya kuba zikhulu kakhulu; kodwa ukuba ayenzeki, yoba ncinane.
Ngokubanzi, ukuphupha iibhanana ezinkulu kuthetha ukuba utshintsho oluhle kakhulu luyeza kwaye nendlela oyithathileyo ilungile. Kodwa lumka, kuba oko kuya kwenzeka kuphela ukuba iibhanana ozibona ephupheni lakho zigqibelele.
Ukuba zivuthiwe, okanye zibolile, oko kuthetha okuchaseneyo noko usandul’ ukukufunda.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ixolo lebhanana?
Nangona sithe ngokuqhelekileyo ukuphupha ibhanana yinto entle, asinakuthetha okufanayo apha. I-peel, ngaphandle kwebhanana ngokwayo, ibonisa ukunyamekela. Kwaye yile kukho into ethile ebomini bakho okanye kungekudala iyakubakho, eza kukhubeka.
Ke ngoko, kuya kufuneka unikele ingqalelo ngakumbi kwiinkcukacha nakubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla ukuze uziphephe ngaphambi kokuba kube kade kakhulu.
Iphupha leebhanana ezincinci
Ukuba okubonayo ephupheni lakho kakhulu, iibhanana ezincinci, i-subconscious yakho iyakulumkisa ukuba iingxaki zomsebenzi kunye/okanye zempilo ziyeza, ke kufuneka wenze uthotho lweenguqulelo ebomini bakho ukuze uzisombulule.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukubona iibhanana zikude
Ukuba iibhanana ozibonayo zikude, into abayibonisayo kukuba ulonwabo lwakho aluxhomekekanga kuwe, kodwa kwabanye abantu. Ke kubonwa njengesilumkiso kuwe ukuba utshintshe indlela yokucinga kwaye uqale ukuzibona njengokuphela kombhali wolonwabo lwakho.
Ngoku ukuba uyazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ibhanana, ngokuqinisekileyo, xa kwenzeka kuwe, uya kuba uyazi ukuba ingqondo yakho ifuna ukukuxelela ntoni.
