Kukho amaphupha namaphupha amabi. Yaye emaphupheni, xa unezinyo elimnandi okanye uthanda iilekese, ukuphupha iilekese kunokufana nokuba separadesi. Ingakumbi kuba emva koko uvuka ufuna ukungcamla inkalakahla obo bumnandi yinto yokuqala oyifaka emlonyeni wakho.
Ngoku, ngaba ukhe wacinga ukuba ukuphupha iilekese kuyinto elungileyo? Okanye mhlawumbi kubi? Kwenzeka ntoni xa uphupha usitya iilekese okanye unikwa iilekese? Ungaxhalabi, apha siza kuhlalutya ezinye iintsingiselo ezinxulumene noku.
Iphupha leelekese
Nabani na othanda iilekese eli phupha, Nokuba yeyiphi na intsingiselo, ilungile. Nangona inokupakishwa.
Ngokubanzi, ukuphupha iilekese yinto entle, kuba ibonisa ukuba kuza kufika iindaba okanye ixesha eliya kuba mnandi. Kodwa, ukuze uyifezekise, kufuneka uthambekele kuyo, oko kukuthi, uvulele into enokuthi ifike ebomini bakho.
Iilekese zifana novuyo, ulonwabo, ulonwabo ... Kwaye oko ephupheni lakhe kwanentsingiselo efanayo. Kodwa kukho amaxesha apho iphupha elinjalo aliyi kuba mnandi. Nini? Ngaba siza kuchaza iintsingiselo ezahlukeneyo?
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha iilekese ezininzi
Ukuphupha iilekese ezininzi kunokuba yinto entle, okanye embi. Kuxhomekeke entwenini? yephupha ngokwalo.
Singatsho ukuba intsingiselo jikelele yeli phupha kukuba unomzuzwana wolonwabo oluqhubekayo. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba uhleli kamnandi neqabane lakho, uqhuba kakuhle kumgangatho wobuqu kunye nobuchwephesha, ukuba unovuyo...
Kodwa, ukuba le nto yenziwa zezi lekese ikwenza uzive kakubi (umzekelo ngenxa yokuba utya kakhulu, okanye ngenxa yokuba ibangela ukuba ungakwamkeli xa ubona zininzi), kufuneka ulumke, kuba kunokubonisa ukuba kukho ityala elingakuvumeli ukuba uphumleukuba awukwazi ukuphuma entlokweni yakho.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha usitya into emnandi
Khawucinge ukuba ephupheni lakho utya into emnandi. Ewe, kunokwenzeka ukuba ngoku unesidingo sokufumana imvakalelo efanayo naleyo ubunayo ephupheni lakho. Y inyaniso kukuba intsingiselo yayo kukuba amaxesha olonwabo olukhulu luya kufika, ngakumbi entsatsheni nakuzo zonke iindawo ezikungqongileyo.
Ikwabonisa ukuba iingxaki osenokuba nazo zinokusonjululwa kunye nokuba kukho utshintsho olulungileyo oluza kuza ebomini bakho.
Phupha ngevenkile yeelekese
Ukuphupha ngevenkile yeelekese, nokuba kungenxa yokuba uthenga okanye ukuyibona nje, ithetha into entle kakhulu. Y kukuba ukwixesha apho uziva kamnandi ngaweUyazazi ukuba ungubani kwaye ulwela ukufumana into oyifunayo. Kude kube kwinqanaba lokuba uphumelele.
Eli phupha inxulumene nempumelelo kwanobutyebiYimeko apho i-subconscious yakho ikuxelela ukuba ukwazile ukuzalisekisa amaphupha akho kwaye ukwangumntu onconywayo ngabo bakungqongileyo.
Phupha amaqebengwana aswiti amaninzi
Kule meko kukho iinguqulelo ezimbini ezahlukeneyo zokuphupha amaqebelengwane amnandi. Kwisandle esinye, into yokuba kukho amaqebengwana amaninzi abonisa ukuba unokulungiswa kulonwabo lwemihla ngemihla, oko kukuthi, ubeka kuqala izinto ezingabalulekanga kangako, ushiya ngasemva ezo zikhoyo, ngokukodwa ukuze uphile kakuhle.
Kwelinye icala, intsingiselo enikelwa ngabanye yahluke ngokupheleleyo. Kwaye kwenzeka ukuba, xa kukho amaqebengwana amaninzi (kwaye akucaci ukuba amnandi), bathetha malunga nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuthi kuya kubakho ixesha elinenzuzo kakhulu, ngokungathi kumnandi njengetheko elingayi kuphela.
Ukuwela zombini iintsingiselo, sinokubona ukuba kukho ubudlelwane. Kwaye kukuba iqela libonisa ukuzonwabisa kwaye ukuba ugxininisa kuphela kwezo, kodwa awuzithatheli ngqalelo izinto ezibalulekileyo, usenokuphoswa yinto ebaluleke ngokwenene.
Phupha ngeelekese zetshokolethi
Xuba iilekese kunye netshokolethi, nangona kubomi bokwenyani yinto elungileyo, emaphupheni ayinakuba nesiphumo esihle.
Xa uphupha iilekese ugxininisa ukuba uziva ulungile ngawe, ukuba uyazihlonela, uzithande kwaye uyazi ukuba yintoni ekulungele wena, ngoko izigqibo zakho zihambelana nawe. Kodwa xa ezo lekese ziyitshokolethi, izinto ziyatshintsha. Kwaye kunjalo Kuthiwa luphawu olubonisa ukuba uzama, mhlawumbi kakhulu, mhlawumbi akunjalo, ukoyisa umntu okanye into ethile.. Ke eyona nto ilungileyo kukuma kwaye ucinge ukuba kufanelekile na ukuqhubeka nolo tshintsho okanye kungcono ukuyishiya.
Phupha ukuba bandinika iilekese
Nangona ephupheni lakho into yokuba bakunike iilekese kufuneka ibe yinto entle kakhulu, ngakumbi ukuba uyabathanda, eneneni intsingiselo ichasene. Kule meko, inxulumene nento engathandekiyo.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba uza kuphila imeko engaqhelekanga, hayi eyakhayo, njengokuphanga, ukuqweqwedisa, okanye kwanento enxulumene nomsebenzi wakho.
Nceda uqaphele oko ukunikwa iilekese kwasoloko kubonwa njengento embi (Le nto "ungamkeli iilekese kubantu abangabaziyo"). Ewe, ephupheni yinto efanayo. Nokuba sisalamane okanye umntu omaziyo, i-subconscious yakho isenokufuna ukukuxelela ukuba umntu oza kukungcatsha usondele kuwe kunokuba ucinga.
Phupha ngeelekese ezimuncu
Khawucinge ukuba ephupheni lakho kukho iilekese ezininzi. Ingxaki kukuba, xa uzitya, ufumanisa ukuba ziyakrakra, okanye zikwimeko embi.. Oko kukuthi, zingcamla into echaseneyo nefanele incasa.
Kwaye ewe, njengoko ucinga, lonto ithetha ukuba liphupha elibi. I-subconscious iyakulumkisa ukuba uza kuphoxeka, mhlawumbi kwisibini, kwintsapho, kubahlobo okanye emsebenzini. Uya kudlula umzuzwana apho ubunethemba kwaye yonke into iya kunqunyulwa.
Njengoko ubona, ukuphupha iilekese phantse yonke into ilungile, kwaye unokuvuka ngovuyo oluhle kakhulu emlonyeni wakho nasemoyeni wakho. Ngaba wakha wayiphupha ngayo?
