Iphupha lokufa

Kubuhlungu kakhulu xa siphupha ngokufa, uvakalelo alunangxaki njengoko kuyinto engathandwayo ngokungagqibekanga. Ukufa kungakhokelela ekuswelekeni kwesiqu sakho, nokuba lilungu losapho, okanye umhlobo okanye isilwanyana sasekhaya. Onke amaphupha anokugubungela uluhlu olukhulu lwezibakala kunye neemeko kwaye ngenxa yoko intsingiselo iphupha lokufa zinokwahluka.

Iphupha lokufa

Njengokubonakaliswa kwale nyaniso, oko akuthethi ukusondela ekufeni komntu, into esihlala siyidibanisa kwaye esikhathazayo, kodwa endaweni yoko Utshintsho olukhulu nolubalulekileyo lotshintsho lomntu, okanye inyani eyinxalenye yobomi bethu.

Esinye isiphumo esinokufumana intsingiselo kukuba sikhathele kakhulu ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo. Ngokuqinisekileyo ucebise ukufikelela kwinjongo enkulu kwaye uzive ukhathazekile ngenxa yokungakwazi ukuyiphumeza, kwaye oko kukhokelela ekufuneni indawo yokuhlala kuwe, uphumle, ungene emqolombeni wakho kwaye uzikhuphe kwinto yonke.

Abantu abagula kakhulu abanokubakho kufutshane nokufa banokuphupha ngako. Banokuvakalelwa ngaloo ndlela okanye kuba baziva bengakulungelanga. Yindlela yokufuna oko kuthetha kuba bafuna ukuphelisa ukubandezeleka kwabo.

Ukuphupha ngokusweleka kwesalamane

Imvakalelo yokuqala kolu hlobo lwephupha kukuba xa uphuphe isizalwane esisondeleyo, siyimele njengephupha elibi. Siza kukholelwa ukuba kukho into eza kwenzeka okanye into eza kwenzeka kuye, ibangele imvakalelo yokubandezeleka.

Ukuphupha ngokusweleka kwesalamane

Ukuze utolike ifayile ye- intsingiselo yokuphupha izihlobo ezifileyo Kufuneka uqaphele zonke iinkcukacha ezenzekayo malunga nephupha. Kuzo zonke iintsingiselo ezifanelekileyo ezenzekayo ephupheni lakho, kuya kufuneka ukhethe eyona ilungele umzuzu wakho wangoku. Ngokuqinisekileyo babonisa ukungazithembi okanye uloyiko.

Ukuphupha ngokusweleka kwamalungu osapho kubonisa ukuba uza kwenza utshintsho olukhulu ebomini bakho. Ngokuqinisekileyo ubeka ecaleni yonke imiceli mngeni yakho kwaye usendleleni kukufumana loo mvuzo. Oku kukunika ithuba lokuyibona loo nto ungumntu onethemba kwaye utshintsho lwakho buqu okanye lwentlalo luya kuhlala likuxhasa.

Ukuba ephupheni ukhala kakhulu: kuthetha ukuba uzakubeka ecaleni zonke iimvakalelo ezimbi eziyinxalenye yobomi bakho. Ngokuqinisekileyo yintlungu enkulu onayo ngaphakathi kwaye awubonakalisi ngaphandle, ke ngephupha uyayenza.

Kunokubakho ukungavisisani kosapho, ukuba unayo into yokungavumelani nabo kwaye uphupha ngokufa kwabo kufuneka ulumke kuba ngokuqinisekileyo basebenzisa into ethile okanye bafuna ukukuhlaza.

Iphupha lomntwana oswelekileyoIphupha elibi kwaye libangela unxunguphalo olukhulu. Oko akuthethi ukuba kukho into eza kwenzeka kuwe, kodwa inokwenzeka nakwisiselo esingalunganga ohamba kuso, okanye uxinzelelo oluninzi okanye usizi oluninzi. Mhlawumbi inxulunyaniswa nengxaki yobungcali enjengokungabinamali kwinkampani yakho, ukugxothwa okanye ukonakala okukhulu kuhlobo oluthile lothando, usapho okanye ubudlelwane obunobuhlobo.

Iphupha ngokusweleka komhlobo

Ukuphupha kolu hlobo lwesiganeko kuhlala kunokubonakaliswa okungalunganga okanye okuqinisekileyo, kuxhomekeke kubudlelwane obuncinci okanye obuncinci kunye naloo mntu. Njengomgaqo jikelele, ukutolikwa kwawo kunjalo isimilo esihle sempilo kuye, yempumelelo enkulu kunye nokuphila ixesha elide. Kungenxa yokuba kukho inkxalabo yaloo mntu kwaye awufuni ukuba kwenzeke into embi kuye.

Kuvela kuthando lwakho ngokubhekisele kobo buhlobo kwaye uthulula onke amandla akho ukuze izinto zihambe kakuhle. Kwelinye icala, uyabona ukuba ubuhlobo bakho bunokuba buthathaka kwaye inyani yokucinga ngokufa kwayo ikwenza ubone ukuba uza kulahleka ntoni ukuba ayanyamalala.

Kungathetha ukungakhathali, ukuba uphuphe umhlobo okude okanye wobuntwana kwaye khange umbone ixesha elide, inokuchazwa njengalaa mntu akasathethi nto kuwe.

Unokubonisa uxanduvaUkuba loo mntu ubhubhile kufuneka ubukhathalele kakhulu obo buhlobo, kuba ngokuqinisekileyo bakunike amaxesha amahle kakhulu kwaye yiyo loo nto kungafuneki ububeke ecaleni.

Ndiphuphe ndife

Liliphupha eliphindaphindayo neliphazamisayo kodwa akufuneki ukuba lithethe kakubi. Oko akuthethi ukuba okwakho ukufa kuphezulu, kodwa kuya kubonisa utshintsho olukhulu emzimbeni wakho.

Ngokuqinisekileyo utshintsho olukhulu olubalulekileyo luyeza, lutshintsho kunye novavanyo olukhulu, kodwa ngendlela yokuzivelela nefanelekileyo. Uya kuzifumana ukwimeko yoxinzelelo lweemvakalelo lokukhula kwenqanaba elikhulu lokuzalelwa ekuzalweni ngokutsha, uya kube ushiya ecaleni konke okungalunganga kunye nokungavumeli ukuba uguquke.

Xa uphupha ukuba bayakubulalaKwelinye icala, singayinxulumanisa nokushiya bucala ubudlelwane bothando obukunika kuphela iintlungu nokungonwabi. Okanye ubaleka uxanduva olungakonwabisi, njengomsebenzi okanye imeko ebaluleke ngakumbi kunesiqhelo.

Phupha ngomngcwabo wakho

Ukuba owakho umngcwabo uvela ephupheni okanye emangcwabeni Ibonisa ukuphucula kunye nethuba lokuzihlaziya. Ukuba uyafa urhaxwa ephupheni, oko kungabonisa ukuba ukukhathazeka kunye noxinzelelo lwakho zezona zizathu zokurhaxwa kwakho, uziva ngathi awupheli.

Ngaba uphupha ngomntu omnye okanye nangaphezulu?

Iphupha lobhubhane

Xa utolika amaphupha nabafileyo, inani nalo libaluleke kakhulu, kuba alizukuba nentsingiselo efanayo ukuba uphupha umntu ofileyo ukuba uphupha amawaka abantu abafileyo, umzekelo ngu Iziphumo zobhubhane Njengakwimeko ye-COVID-19 evelise isantyalantyala se amaphupha kunye coronavirus.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ubhubhane?

Ayisiyonto iqhelekileyo, kodwa iyenzeka kwaye xa singayilindelanga kangako. Ke, intsingiselo yokuphupha ngobhubhane yinto esijongene nayo ngaphezulu kunokuba besingathanda. Ngenxa ye- intsholongwane ye-Corona kwaye imeko yokulumkisa ebimiselwe, ubomi bethu butshintshiwe kwaye oku kukwabonakaliswa ngamaphupha.

Yiyo loo nto ukuphupha iintsholongwane kunye nobhubhane yinto eqhelekileyo kula maxesha. Ke ngoko, kufuneka siqale kwinto yokuba umzimba nengqondo zethu sele zicetyisiwe kwesi sihloko. Ukuhlalutya iphupha kuyinkimbinkimbi kunokuba sicinga, kodwa ukuba sele sinesi siseko, kuhlala kuphela ukugqabaza ngentsingiselo yalo. Ngaba uyafuna ukufumanisa?

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Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ubulawa?

Phupha ukuba bakubulale kwaye uvuka wothuka ngexesha lolwaphulo-mthetho luqhelekile kunokuba ucinga. Kubo bonke ubomi sihamba neembandezelo ezininzi, uloyiko oluhlasela iintloko zethu, kwaye ngaxa lithile kuyo oku kuguqulela amaphupha amabi aliqela. Kodwa ... zithetha ntoni ngenene? Ukwenza izigqibo ezichanekileyo ngephupha obulawelwe kulo, kufuneka uqale uhlalutye imeko eyenzeka kuyo. Kuba ayenzi ngqondo inye vumela umhlobo akubulale ukuba yenziwe ngumntu ongamaziyo okanye isilwanyana onaso ukoyika.

Ukongeza, kufanelekile ukuthatha ingqalelo eyakho imeko yeemvakalelo kwaye iimeko ohamba kuzo, kuba into elula njengokuthatha isigqibo inokuba yiyo ebangela obu buhlungu. Akwanelanga ukwazi intsingiselo ye- iphupha lokubulala (ukuba nguwe owenza ukubulala) kwaye phupha ngokubulala (ukuba ulingqina njengomntu wesithathu okanye awubandakanyekanga kulo). Kuba apho uya kuba nemibono engakumbi yokugqibezela ukutolikwa.

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Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ukubulala okanye ukubulala?

Wanna uyazi Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ukubulala? Kwimeko apho, qhubeka ufunda eli nqaku. Ukubulala kwenzeka rhoqo emaphupheni ethu xa siye sabona ukuphanga okanye ukuphanga kwaye siziva sisoyika, kunye naxa sibona iindaba kumabonwakude okanye kwiphephandaba kwaye oko kuyasichaphazela.

Ngamanye amaxesha, kwindibano yentlalontle, ingqondo yethu isifundisa ulwaphulo-mthetho ngendlela ebonakala ingekhoyo. Okokuqala, kufuneka kuthiwe ngokuxhomekeke kwiimeko zakho zangoku kunye nemeko yesiqwenga, ukubulala kunokutolikwa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Ukubulala umntu omaziyo akunantsingiselo ifanayo nokubulala umntu ongamaziyo okanye isilwanyana. Ngamanye amaxesha, ungulo mntu utshutshiswayo (fumanisa Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha bendileqa), abafuna ukumbulala. Bekutheni ze bandidubule? Sisiphi isiganeko ebomini bam bokwenyani esinokubangela la maphupha amabi?

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Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngemela?

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Yonke imihla sinemela ezandleni zethu kwaye singayisebenzisa kaninzi, yiyo loo nto kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ubaphuphe. Nangona kunjalo, kuqala ndifuna ukukuxelela loo nto zininzi iindlela zokutolikanjengoko umxholo unokwahluka kakhulu. Oko kukuthi, oko akuthethi okufanayo ukuphupha uxobula iitapile, uphangwa kwaye ubeka imela entanyeni yakho, okanye ugcwele ligazi. Ngaba kukho imilo ebandakanyekayo? Ziphukile? Okanye ubona nje ikhitshi elibekwe ngeefolokhwe kunye neenkamba? Ngaba yigolide okanye isilivere? Njengoko ubona, zininzi izinto ezinokwenzeka kwaye ndifuna ukukubonisa zonke.

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Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ubulala?

Namhlanje ndiza kukubonisa ukuba kuthetha ntoni iphupha lokubulala. Amaxesha amaninzi, ngokubukela isenzo, ukurhanela okanye idrama kumdlalo bhanyabhanya, sinamaphupha anxulumene nokubulala umntu. Kukwanjalo ke xa sibona ibali lokubulala kumabonwakude okanye kwiphephandaba.

Oku kwenzeka ngenxa yokuba i-subconscious yethu isikhumbuza ngeendawo zobomi bokwenyani ezisichaphazela ngendlela ethile. Nangona kunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba olu lwaphulo-mthetho luvele ngendlela ebonakalayo ngokuzenzekelayo. Ukubulala Ineentsingiselo ezininzi ngokuxhomekeke kwiimeko ohamba kuzo kunye nokuphuhliswa kwebali lamaphupha.

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Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha amangcwaba?

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Uninzi lwethu luyazibuza ukuba yintoni emva kobomi, emva kokufa, yintoni enokubangela phupha iibhokisi ezivaliweyo okanye avulekileyo, amangcwaba okanye onke amangcwaba. Kodwa zininzi iintsingiselo ezinokubakho kuxhomekeke kwimeko ekhutshwe yingqondo. Ungahamba emini okanye ebusuku, ukuba kukho amangcwaba okanye iibhokisi, ukuba uzibone sele ufile, ukuba amangcwaba ngokwawo mahle kakhulu, amadala okanye kuphela abantwana, izilwanyana. Okanye nokuba amangcwaba angamabhodlo.

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Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha malunga ne-coronavirus?

Elinye lamaphupha eliphindaphindwe kakhulu kwezi veki zidlulileyo leli. Kungoko sonke sifuna ukwazi iifayile ze- Intsingiselo yokuphupha malunga ne-coronavirus. Uluntu lwethu luhamba ngomzuzu obalulekileyo kwaye oku kuye kwenza ukuba ingqondo nomzimba wethu zisabele ngandlela thile.

Ngamaphupha sikwaboniswa yonke into esiyifumene kwingqondo yethu kwaye engasoloko ibonakala. Yiyo loo nto namhlanje, siza kufumanisa zonke iintsingiselo ezisinika iphupha apho kukho izifo okanye intsholongwane. Nika ingqalelo kuko konke oku!

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Namhlanje ndiza kukubonisa intsingiselo ye- phupha udutyulwe. Akukho mfuneko yokuba ulipolisa, okanye uphathe isixhobo kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla ukuze ube nephupha elibi elibandakanya ukudubula. Liliphupha, nangona lingaqhelekanga kakhulu, linomdla kakhulu. Kuba zininzi iintsingiselo kunye nesimboli eya kuthi ivelise kwakhona. Ngaphambi kokuqala, kuya kufuneka wazi ukuba ukutolikwa kwephupha kuya kuxhomekeka kwimeko apho ibali lenzeka khona, ukongeza kubuntu bakho nakwindlela olimitha ngayo ilizwe onalo.

Umzekelo, ayizukuphinda ifane ukuba nephupha apho amandla emikhosi ekuleqa kwaye uphethe umpu esandleni sakho emva kokuba wenze isenzo sokuphanga, kunokuba umntu ukudubula ngayo, ukuba uyayifumana, okanye ukuba uphupha nje unayo ekhaya. Siza kuhlalutya ngokweenkcukacha ezinye zeemeko ezinokwenzeka.

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Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ukufa?

Awunakubaleka ubomi ungakhange ujongane nokufa. Iphupha lokufa Kuqhelekile, ikakhulu ngenxa yokungaqiniseki kokungazi ukuba silindelwe ntoni emva kobomi, kunye noloyiko lokuphulukana nabantu esibathandayo. Ngokwesiqhelo liphupha elibi eliza kusenza sivuke sibilile kwaye sibetha ngamandla. Ngokuchasene nenkolelo edumileyo, iingcali kwiphupha le-psychoanalysis azisoloko ziyinika intsingiselo embi. Khangela ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngokufa Kuqheleke kakhulu.

Kwiimeko ezininzi, ukuphupha ngomntu esifa kunxulumene uphawu lothando usiya kuloo mntu, kwaye awufuni ukuba ahambe kwaye ayeke ukumbona (ungalwandisa olu lwazi ngokufunda malunga intsingiselo yokuphupha abahlobo abangasekhoyo). Inokuba kakhulu malunga nomhlobo, umntu osebenza naye, isalamane, iqabane lakho. Iintsingiselo ze iphupha lokufa Ziyahluka kakhulu, kwaye iimeko zomphuphi kuya kufuneka zithathelwe ingqalelo. Kubalulekile ukuba uthathe ingqalelo nakwizona nkcukacha zincinci, kuba yonke into ibalulekile xa kufikelelwa kutoliko oluchanekileyo. Apha sizama ukukubonisa ukhetho olunokwenzeka.

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Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha umntu eswelekile?

Namhlanje ndiza kutyhila kuwe ukuba yeyiphi na intsingiselo yokuphupha umntu ofileyo. Kukho amawaka amaphupha esinokuba nawo, ukusuka ku-kiss omnandi naye inkwenkwe uyayithanda nabantu abafileyo. Eyesibini inokubonakala yoyikeka, kodwa baninzi abantu abaphuphayo, ngakumbi abo basandula ukuphulukana nelungu losapho okanye umhlobo othandekayo. Kubalulekile ukuba uyazi loo nto iphupha lokufa inokuchazwa ngeendlela ezininzi ngokomxholo wephupha, umntu ovela kulo kunye nobudlelwane obenabo naye. Umzekelo, ayinantsingiselo efanayo ukubona utatomkhulu wakho (njengophawu lokuba uyamkhumbula), kunokuphupha utshaba olufileyo (lumele inzondo oziva ngayo kuye).

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Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha izalamane ezifileyo

Ukuba unayo ndiphuphe izihlobo ezifileyo Into yokugqibela ekufuneka uyenzile kukothuka. Eyona nto iqhelekileyo kukuba oko kuthetha ukuba silahlekile ngandlel 'ithile kwaye thina ingcebiso iyafuneka okanye ulwazi oluvela kumntu esimkhathaleleyo. Sisenokufuna inkxaso ukoyisa imiqobo yekamva lethu.

Kunokwenzeka ukuba wena ngokwakho ucinga ukuba isisombululo esifanelekileyo seso sikunikwa ngumntu ongasekhoyo ephupheni, kodwa ke ubudinga ukusiva komnye umntu ukuze ukholelwe. Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuvuka wonwabile kwaye ukhululeke kakhulu, into ebonakala ingaqhelekanga kakhulu ukuba ulungile ndiphupha izalamane ezifileyo.

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