Xa uphupha izigebenga, wawukhe uzive ungaphantsi kwabanye, ungabalulekanga kweli hlabathi. Umlo ovela kubazali bakho wokungaphumeleli uviwo, umqolo ovela kutitshala esikolweni okanye isiganeko nomphathi wakho emsebenzini inokuba ingunobangela wale mvakalelo. Uziva umncinci phambi kwabanye, ungenamandla, ungakwazi ukwenza.
Nangona kunjalo, kukho ezinye iindlela zokutolika ngokuxhomekeke kwiimeko zephupha. Umzekelo, ayithethi okufanayo ukuba isigebenga sikuleqe (funda ngakumbi malunga ndiphupha ukuba bayandileqa) ukuba nguwe umntu omkhulu onyathela ilali engenakuzikhusela. Ke ngoko, kufanelekile ukuba ufunde onke amathuba.
Intsingiselo yokuphupha iingxilimbela
Iingcali zengqondo zokuphupha zibanga ukuba ukuphupha isigebenga kumele uloyiko lokujongana neengxaki. Kungenzeka ukuba utyhubela kwinqanaba apho ungathanda ukujongana nomntu okuhlukumezisileyo, njengomntu ofunda naye ongayeki ukungxola nawe okanye ufuna ukuthetha ngokwaneleyo kumphathi okuhlukumezayo emsebenzini.
Uya kumangaliswa ukuba ubuya kwazi ukuwatolika amaphupha akho, kuba unokuzazi ngcono. Ukuqhubeka nemizekelo, ayenzi ngqondo efanayo iphupha lokulwa kwaye ujongane nesigebenga (uhlala ujonge kuloyiko lwakho) kunokuba uzame ukubaleka uzingelwe nguye.
Uninzi ukutolika rhoqo kwamaphupha kunye nezigebenga
Ziyanceda iingxilimbela? Ngokwesiqhelo, isigebenga kumaphupha akho sisizathu sokoyika, kodwa kule meko, ukutolikwa kulungile.
Amandla kunye nesibindi sokujongana neengxaki kuboniswa ngamaxesha anzima. Uza nezithintelo Kwaye uzama ukuya phambili kunjalo.
Ukuphupha kwezigebenga zikuleqa imele ubuntu obubuthathaka, uloyiko lwakho lokoyisa iingxaki ngaphandle koncedo lwangaphandle, uloyiko lokusilela kunye a ukuziva ungabalulekanga.
Umzekelo olungileyo ingangabantu aboyikayo xa kufuneka benze intetho esidlangalaleni: isihlwele siyaboyikisa, ubukhulu babantu abaza kubaphulaphula xa bethetha bubenza bazive bebancinci.
Ixesha lifikile ukoyisa loo phobia ukuze iphupha elibi liphele kube kanye.
Iinkumbulo ezimbi zabantwana. Izigebenga zibonakala emaphupheni xa ubuphila kwimeko enzimaNjengabazali ababohlwaya ngaphandle kwesizathu okanye bakuphatha gadalala ebuntwaneni bakho.
I-subconscious ayilibalanga ukuba isiselo esibi kwaye ijika umntu ekucinezele ukuba ube sisigebenga, umntu ongamhloniphiyo, kodwa uyoyika.
Ukuba uphupha isigebenga, ungothuki, nawe inokumela ukhuseleko lwakho. Xa uzichaza kulo mntu, oko kuthetha ukuba uyazithemba, ukhaliphile, awuthethi zigqibo zakho kwaye awusoze uncame ude ufezekise iinjongo ozibekele zona.
Nangona kunjalo, izisa nesiphene esincinci: uyabadelela abanye abantu, uziva uphakamile kunabanye kwaye yinto ekufuneka uyilungisile.
Isidingo sophuhliso lomntu. Ngamanye amaxesha siphupha izigebenga njengophawu lomnqweno wethu wokuzikhulisela buqu (hayi ngobukhulu). Uyakholelwa ukuba uyakhula kwaye ungathatha uxanduva lwezinto ezintsha ebomini bakho.
Kwaye wena, Belinjani iphupha lakho nezigebenga? Ngaba uye wabandezeleka okanye waziva ubhetele ngesiqu sakho? Uqhuba njani ngokuzithemba? Ngaba ucinga ukuba kubonisa ukuba abantu bakujongela phantsi kwaye iyakuchaphazela? Sitshele ngokweenkcukacha ukuba lalinjani ityala lakho kunye nokuba utolike ntoni, usabelana ngamava nabanye abafundi kusinceda sifunde!
Ukuba eli nqaku phupha iingxilimbela, Ndikucebisa ukuba ufunde ezinye ezifanayo kwicandelo le- amaphupha aqala ngonobumba uG.
Ndiphuphe ndikunye nabantu endisebenza nabo. Ndikhangela umntu endisebenza naye endandithandana naye, kodwa wayengekho (ukuqonda ukuba andikhathali) Ndihlala ndidlala ngokuzimisela, ke ndiqhubeka ndihamba ndihleka noogxa bam, kwaye omnye woogxa wavela ngendlela igorha etyumza njengaye i-edifice. Bendimane ndimjonga ndingoyiki ukuba uzakundityumza ndiqonde ukuba inoba nguye kanye umntu endandithandana naye. Ndiza kujika ndihambe noogxa bam siyokulungisa umngxunya kwipatiyo, sityala okomthi omncinci (wawunjengosetyana) kwaye siwushiya umhlaba nokuba.
Ekugqibeleni, ndabona isakhiwo sisekude kwaye kukho amagwababa amnyama abhabha ngaphezulu…. Ingaba ithetha ntoni? Kunyaka ophelileyo ndaxelelwa ukuba ndinomhlaza wesibeleko, kwaye ugxa wam wandishiya kanye xa ndandifuna kakhulu. Emva koko wabuyela ebomini bam kwaye… ndiziva ngathi senza isondo. Akukho mdla mkhulu kwicala lakho. Ndilukhuni, kwaye naye akazange andincame, kodwa ndathetha naye kule veki ndaziva ngathi ndikwisilonda nangona kunjalo wandishiya ebumnyameni. Ndiyaqonda awunawo umdla njengam kuye mhlawumbi. Ndifuna nje omnye umntu andixelele ukuba ndiyeke kobu budlelwane bunetyhefu.
Ndandiphupha ndisilwa namarhamncwa ukuze ndisindise intsapho yam, kodwa ndandingakwazi nokushukuma. Kancinci kancinci bendihamba ngokukhawuleza kwaye ndilwa ngcono. Kwaye emva koko walwa nama-titans avela esibhakabhakeni, wagqiba ekubeni abe yinkosikazi yendalo yonke ezisa uxolo. Kutheni ndinamaphupha angaqhelekanga kangaka? Ngolunye usuku ndiphuphe ukuba umfana wam wayehamba kwixesha elidlulileyo ukuze aqeqeshe noMnu.
Ndiphuphe ndiqhelekile nosapho lwam kwabe sekuqala isigebenga samatye sitshabalalisa wonke umntu ndoyika kakhulu ndingazi nokuba ndibaleke ndithini, uthe wasondela wacima ndacela uncedo waphinda wavela nakulonto. Ndivukile ialarm yam??
Ndiphuphe ingxilimbela ebhityileyo itya abantu. Kananjalo ebendileqa.
Molo zinjani izinto! Kutshanje ngenye imini, ndiphuphe ndisilwa edabini kwaye kukho isango elide kakhulu elikrolwe ematyeni kwaye kukho izigebenga ezine ezindijikelezileyo zisilwa yaye sasinxibelelana ukuba siqhubeke sisilwa yaye siphepha iimbumbulu namatye amaninzi awayesingqongileyo. , ngexesha elithile xa ndikufuphi nomnyango omkhulu, kwafuneka ndikhwele kuwo ukuze ndibone kakuhle imeko kwaye emva komzuzwana, ndavuka ephupheni lam; kodwa ayisosihlandlo sokuqala ukuba ndiphuphe izigebenga, kuba kwiminyaka emininzi edlulileyo ndaye ndaphupha izigebenga ezimbini ezazikuhlobo oluthile lweofisi kwaye ndabona ukuba zithatha amanye amaxwebhu kwifolda okanye kwifolda kwidrowa yeefayile kwaye omnye wabo Undicebise ukuba ndithini amagama endimele ndiwathethe ukuze ndizithethelele, ngoko ke bendisoloko ndilandela elo cebiso ngendlela yam ecacileyo nelungileyo, ndiyathemba ukuba amava am ngolu hlobo lwamaphupha angaqhelekanga aya kukunceda, kodwa enyanisweni andiyazi. indlela yokutolika ngokuqinisekileyo kwaye bendisoloko ndizama ukuqonda ukuba yintoni esemva kwayo yonke le nto. Kulungile, imibuliso.