Iihagi zi, ecaleni ko ukwanga, Olunye lweempawu ezinkulu zokusondelana nothando. Nangona kunjalo, awunyanzelekanga ukuba ube ngumntu onothando ukuze phupha ukuba bakwange kuba, nangona enyanisweni inentsingiselo ecacileyo, ephupheni inokuchazwa ngeendlela eziliwaka ezahlukeneyo.
Iyintoni intsingiselo yokuphupha unika i-hug?
Ngokwesiqhelo, ukwanga kufanekisela ubukho bobudlelwane obuhle nomntu omnika yona. Into eqhelekileyo kukuba lo mntu uyazana nobomi bokwenyani, ukuba umntu ongaziwayo akabonakali kuwe ngesiquphe ephupheni. Umhlobo, intombi yakho, nkqu nomama wakho ... bonke bangabagqatswa ukuba bavele emaphupheni akho apho ubanga ngothantamiso njengophawu lothando. Ukuba banexesha elibi, unokuziva uzithoba kwaye ebusuku i-subconscious ikukhumbuza ukuba kuya kufuneka uhoye ngakumbi kwaye ubanike intuthuzelo.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuphupha unika ii-hugs kunokuthetha ezinye izinto, kuba Ayifani nokuphupha ukwanga umntu osondeleyo kuye (imele ukusondela kunye nobudlelwane bomntu) umntu wasemzini isondela kuwe kukusongela ngengalo (uphawu lokungathembani eluntwini). Kubalulekile ukuba uqwalasele umxholo kunye nemood yakho ukwenza ukutolikwa ngokuchanekileyo kwephupha lakho. Iinkcukacha zibaluleke kakhulu.
Ukuphupha ukuba uhaga into
Ngaba ubugone into? Ifuzisela ubuntu bokuthanda izinto eziphathekayo ukuba oko unakho ezingalweni zakho sisifuba esigcwele isilivere (jonga intsingiselo phupha ngesilivere). Kwelinye icala, ukuba ubambelele emthini, kubonisa unxibelelwano lwakho olusondeleyo nendalo kunye neyakho inkxalabo ngendalo.
Ukuphupha ngokunika ukwanga okukhuselayo
Ukuphupha ngokunika ukwanga njengophawu lokhuseleko lelinye lawona maphupha mahle akhoyo, kuba ayashiya imvakalelo yoxolo lwangaphakathi oko kuyakuvusa uzolile kwaye wonwabe. Ngokuqinisekileyo kuyo ukhe waphupha umhlobo okanye ngomoya wesalamane esifileyo, ingqondo iphakamisa ukusondela nothando.
Nokuba ingumntu ekudala ungamboni, uya kuziva ukuba usondele kuye kwaye lonto iyakukuthuthuzela. Xa uhamba nexesha lolonwabo, ungaphupha utshaba oluzama ukukugona, okanye umntu ofuna ukuthatha ithuba ngempumelelo yakho. Oku kwenzeka kuba uziva njalo Umona ujikeleza ngeenxa zonke kuwe kwaye kufuneka uhlale ulumkile.
Ukuphupha ukuba ukwanga kuyaliwa
Ngaba uyoyika ukwaliwa? Kule meko, uya kuba nakho ukuqaphela indlela lowo mntu ubuzama ukumanga uyame ngomvaKungenxa yokuba unoloyiko lokuba iya kuphinda ikwenze kwakhona, okanye ngenxa yokuba uphikise ngamandla kwaye woyika ukuba awuyi kuzilungisa izinto. Ukucinga ukuba banokukufulathela kudala udano xa ulele. Eyona ndlela yokuyisombulula kukuthetha izinto ngokucacileyo. Ukongeza, ukuphupha iihagi kunokufumana ukutolikwa okungalunganga.
Ukuphupha ulila kwaye bakunika
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, phupha ulila nokuba umhlobo uyakukugona luphawu lwemfuno yothando. Bala ukuthembela kubahlobo bakho ukusombulula iingxaki zakho. Bakho ngamaxesha amnandi namabi. Ngaba unomnqweno onamandla wokuwolwa? Kuthetha ukuba uneentsilelo ngokweemvakalelo. Ngaba uziqhelile kwiqabane lakho? Ngaba ayenzi ityala elifanayo kuwe kwakhona? Ngaba uphulukene nosapho lwakho kwaye wabakhumbula?
Utolika njani iphupha lakho? Ndingathanda ukuba usixelele apha ngezantsi kwizimvo ukuze abanye abafundi babe nolunye uluvo.
Ividiyo ngentsingiselo yokuphupha i-hug
Ukuba olu lwazi malunga intsingiselo yokuphupha malunga nokwangana, Ndikucebisa ukuba ufunde ezinye izinto ezifanayo kwicandelo le- amaphupha aqala ngonobumba A.
