Yazi zonke iintsingiselo ekubhekiswa kuzo amaphupha aqala ngonobumba B. Siwakhethile loo magama anokubaluleka kakhulu kumaphupha akho. Amaphenyane, imitshato, ukudanisa, iingxowa ...
Uninzi lwamaphupha anentsingiselo, indlela yokuba i-subconscious yethu inxibelelane into entle okanye engalunganga kuthi. Yiyo loo nto xa uphupha kubalulekile ukukhumbula eyona mpawu yephupha. Omnye wabo usenokuba uphupha inxila. Ngaba yakha yakwehlela?
Ukuba ufuna ukwazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini kwaye ingqondo yakho izama ukukuxelela ntoni, ke siya kukunika impendulo ngokusekelwe kwinto onokuyikhumbula kakhulu. Ziphose kuyo?
Khawucinge ukuba uza kuthabatha uhambo. Ngexesha elithile uziva uthanda ukuya kwindlu yangasese, ngoko ke into eqhelekileyo kukuba uyeka kwindawo ethile. Kodwa xa ungena, ubabona bemdaka. Ke uvala umnyango kwaye, ngaphandle kokuba ungxamisekile kwaye awukwazi ukuwuthatha, uye kwenye indawo. Kodwa, emaphupheni akho wenze into enjalo? Ukuphupha ngezindlu zangasese ezimdaka, kholwa okanye hayi, yinto eqhelekileyo kwaye abantu abaninzi baye "banamava" ubuncinane kanye ebomini babo.
Kwaye oku "lizothe" eneneni kunentsingiselo. Ke ukuba uvukile kwaye ukhumbule ukuba inxalenye yephupha lakho ngokucacileyo, kutheni singazami ukwenza intsingiselo yalo?
Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba kuthetha ntoni phupha umntwanaUfike kwindawo elungileyo kuba ndiza kusombulula onke amathandabuzo akho. Xa sinomntwana sikuthatha njengeyona nto ixabisekileyo enokwenzeka kuthi nanjenge utshintsho olukhulu ebomini bakho.
Akukho nto izokufana kwabo bazali ukusukela ngalamzuzu, sinomntwana kwaye ixesha lifikile lokuba simtotobise ngoba umsulwa, simnike ukufudumala ukuze ahlaliseke kwaye amkhaphe kwinyathelo ngalinye izakuthatha ebomini bakho obutsha ukuba ungene emhlabeni.
Ngaba wakha weva ubunzima kuthetha ukuphupha ii-slugs? Kuqheleke ngakumbi kunokuba ucinga ukuba uphupha izilwanyana ezisenyanyisayo okanye ezisoyikisayo, yiyo loo nto siphupha iintwala okanye kunye iingwenya. Nangona kunjalo, i-subconscious ifumana uluvo lokwenza wena phupha malunga neslug ngaphambili nesinye isilwanyana; Ukuba uyiphuphile, ayingombandela wamathuba, kodwa ngumyalezo othunyelwe kuwe kwaye kufuneka uwutolike kwimeko yakho yobuqu kunye nomxholo.
Ngoncedo lweenkcukacha ozibonakaliswe yi-subconscious kuwe, inqanaba ohamba kulo kunye nesichazi-magama samaphupha, uya kuyazi ukuba kuthetha ntoni iphupha le-slugs kwaye uya kuqonda zonke izinto ezingaziwayo ezikukhathazayo.
Amaphupha malunga neebhokhwe aqhelekanga rhoqo. Phupha ngezikhova kunye nezikhova imele ukubonakala kwakho kunye nokuva kakuhle. Intsingiselo yalo ikwahambelana nokuba nethamsanqa, kunye nokukwazi ukubona kwilizwe lezeshishini (oku kungenxa yokuba isikhova sinombono ogqwesileyo).
Aba badlwenguli bayathanda ukuhlala kude kube sebusuku, akukho mfuneko yokuba balale, ngendlela efanayo eyenzeka kulutsha lwanamhlanje, bahlala bethatha ixesha lokuya kulala. Kodwa amaphupha ngezi zilwanyana anokuba nolunye utoliko, olwahluka ngokuxhomekeke kumxholo, iimeko eziboniswa nguwe kunye nemizuzu ohamba kuyo.
Xa umntu amaphupha eembumbulu, ngokuzenzekelayo uyazibuza ukuba lithetha ntoni eli phupha. Iimpawu zoqhushululu zinzima, kodwa ngokubanzi zibonisa amaxesha oxinzelelo anokwenza umphuphi aphelelwe lithemba.
Kweli nqaku uza kwazi ngokweenkcukacha ukuba kuthetha ntoni phupha malunga nenkunkuma. Ukuba ufunda le nto, kunokwenzeka ukuba ukhe waphupha ngendlela engaqhelekanga apho inkunkuma yayiliziko lokuqwalaselwa. Ayisiyonto iqhelekileyo leyo, kodwa iyenzeka kubantu abaninzi kunokuba ucinga.
Oku kuyenzeka xa une amava ngqo ngenkunkuma yasekhayaUmzekelo, ukuba ibhegi iye yaphuka ekhaya kwaye uwungcolise wonke umgangatho, okanye ukuba ilori yenkunkuma ishiye ivumba elibi ngakuwe xa udlula. Nangona kunjalo, i-tase inokuba yimeko apho i-subconscious yakho ikubonisa yona ngendlela ebonakalayo yendalo. Ufuna ukwazi ukuba kutheni? Qhubeka ufunda.
Ufuna ukwazi ukuba yintoni kuthetha ukuphupha ibhayisekile? Iibhayisikile yindlela yokuhamba eye yafumana ukuthandwa kumashumi eminyaka akutshanje. Ziyindlela yokuhamba ngaphandle kokungcolisa indalo, ngelixa uzilolonga kwaye ugcina inkangeleko yakho. Kukho ukutolikwa ngokubanzi, oku kuhlala kunxulunyaniswa nabo bonke abaphuphayo, kodwa kukho ezinye ezingafane zihambe kwaye ezingabalulekanga kangako.
Ngaba uyafuna ukwazi ukuba yintoni Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha iminenga? Amaphupha ngeminenga aqhelekile ukuba ukhe wanxibelelana nesi silwanyana sanyisayo; ayisiyiyo kwaphela, kodwa ngumabonwakude (njengakwincwadi ebhaliweyo), kwifilimu yohlobo lwe "Moby Dick" okanye ukuba uve iindaba ezinxulumene noko. Cinga ngalo naluphi na unxibelelwano onokuba nalo kwesi silwanyana sikhulu, njengoko isenokuba yimvelaphi ekhokelele ephupheni.
Into iyatshintsha ukuba ikhutshwe ngokuzimeleyo, ngaphandle kwayo nayiphi na imvelaphi ebonakalayo. Kukwabaluleke kakhulu ukuba kuthathelwe ingqalelo ukuba iphindaphindeka. Kodwa kuya kufuneka uyikhumbule loo nto Ukutolikwa kwephupha kuya kwahluka ngokweemeko zakho kunye neenkcukacha zephupha elo. Ayizukufana into yokuba kulwandle oluphezulu kwaye ufumane iminenga isiya kufutshane, ukuba ifile, ukuba inemibala eyahlukeneyo, ukuba iyadada esibhakabhakeni. Ukukunceda utolike, siza kufunda ezona meko zixhaphakileyo.
Kuxhomekeka kwisilwanyana, ukutolikwa kwamaphupha kuya kwahluka kakhulu, nangona kuyinto eqhelekileyo uphawu lwenkxalabo yokwenene. Kule nqaku mna iinkcukacha kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha izinambuzane. Abantu abaninzi ngakumbi kunokuba unokucinga ngephupha lolunye uhlobo isinambuzane okanye ibug. Ngapha koko, uninzi lwabo baye basibuza beza nombuzo ofanayo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuze uqonde ngcono into oyiphuphileyo, kuya kufuneka ucacise ngokuthe ngqo ukuba ibiyintoni na intsholongwane okanye izinambuzane, ngowuphi umxholo i-subconscious ekubonisileyo kunye nemeko ohamba kuyo
Akufani ukubona isigcawu njengeentwala, iintakumba, iinyoka, amaphela okanye iimbovane. Ngaba ukwazile ukubabulala okanye zikulume? Ngaba babelele ebhedini, emzimbeni okanye entloko? Ityala ngalinye linentsingiselo yalo, kwaye yile nto siza kuyibona kancinci kancinci.
Zininzi iindidi zamaphupha, kodwa namhlanje ndiza kukucacisela kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha udanisa. Ayilophupha liqhelekileyo, nangona kunjalo, uya kuba nalo ngexesha elithile kwaye kuxhomekeke kwimeko kunye neemeko ezenzeka kuyo, iya kuba neentsingiselo ezahlukeneyo ozokwazi apha ngezantsi. Njengomgaqo jikelele, xa uphupha umdaniso, utolikwa njenge Inkululeko yokuzivaKungenxa yoko le nto usiya kwisingqi somculo, ngokungathi yonke into ihamba. Umzuzwana wokulingana kwaye uziva ukhululekile kunye nawe. Ngamafutshane, wenza kakuhle emsebenzini, nosapho, nakwisondo. Kodwa kukho ezinye iintsingiselo ekufuneka uyazi.
Ukuba ufuna ukwazi kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha umtshato, funda ukuze ufumane iinkcukacha. Inkqubo ye- bodas ziyindawo yonxibelelwano phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini. Ngumzuzu apho abantu ababini bathathe isigqibo sokuba bazokwabelana ngobomi babo ukusukela ngalaa mzuzu, xa "ewe, ndiyakwenza" kushiyekile esibingelelweni. Ukuba uza kutshata nomntu kungekudala, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba nolu hlobo lwamaphupha. Kodwa ukuba bekungenje, zininzi iinguqulelo ezinokuba nazo.
Ngaphambi kokuqala ngotoliko, kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo ukuba kukho Ukutolika okuninzi kunye neentsingiselo malunga nephupha. Kwaye ayizukuba nentsingiselo efanayo ukuya emtshatweni ongengowakho, kwaye ekugqibeleni awenziwa, ukuba nguwe otshatayo, ilungu losapho, umhlobo, ex (ungafunda ngakumbi ngokufunda malunga intsingiselo yokuphupha malunga ne-ex yakho). Inyaniso yokuba umtshato ubhiyozelwa ngumthetho woluntu okanye yiCawe nayo yinto efanelekileyo kakhulu.
Ebomini, uthando alunakusilela. Abantu bahlala bebopheleleke kuluntu lobudlelwane njengesibini kwaye, ngokuyinxenye, oku kuye kwenza ukwanga kumele umntu. Kule nqaku uza kufunda ukuba kuthetha ntoni iphupha lokuncamisa. Nangona kunjalo, ifayile ye- ukutolika iphupha ngokumanga Inokuba yinto elungileyo, engalunganga, enomdla, okanye emele ingxaki ngokuxhomekeke kulowo uphuzayo kwaye ngubani kwelinye icala.
Kukwabalulekile ukuba kuthathelwe ingqalelo imeko yeemvakalelo zomphuphi, ukuyichaza ngokuchanekileyo intsingiselo. Iyintoni intsingiselo yokuphupha uwanga?
Wanna uyazi Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha amagqwirha? Amagqwirha ayizozinto zabantwana kuphela. Ngokwesiqhelo, ngabancinci endlini abasesichengeni sokuba namaphupha amabi, kuba xa sasingabantwana sasiboyika, ukongeza kwizilo, iziporho y Izithunzela. Abantu abadala baphupha nabo. Umzekelo, ukuba ubonile ubugqwirha okanye umboniso bhanyabhanya, njengoHarry Potter, kunokuba sengqiqweni ukuba namaphupha amabi malunga nobugqwirha nobugqwirha ngobo busuku.
Nangona kunjalo, kubantu abaqolileyo banokuvela ngaphandle kokunxibelelana nayo nantoni na enxulumene noko, banokuba yinto ezenzekelayo. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba uqale, khumbula ukuba ayingawo onke amaphupha ngobugqwirha anentsingiselo efanayo. Ungayibona igqwirha libhabha kumtshayelo walo, ukuba ulungile okanye ungalunganga, ukukhafula, ukukuleqa kunye nokuhlasela. Ngaba zintle okanye zimbi ngentsumpa? Ngaba bayahleka okanye bayalila? Ngaba banekati ezandleni zabo okanye ngaba bakhatshwa ngumtyholi (emva koko kubalulekile ukuba ufumane okungakumbi malunga Phupha iidemon uthandaze)? Umxholo ubalulekile kwaye yiyo loo nto siqala ukusuka kutoliko ngokubanzi ukukhokelela ngakumbi ngakumbi.
Iphupha ngalinye linentsingiselo yalo, kodwa liyahluka ngokwemeko yalo. Namhlanje ndikuzisela lonke ulwazi oludingayo malunga ne amaphupha okuhlamba. Ayisiqhelo rhoqo, kodwa kukho abantu abanazo, yiyo loo nto ndigqibe ekubeni ndicacise ngokweenkcukacha zonke iintsingiselo ezinokubakho.
Ukuba akukho namnye olungele imeko yakho, khumbula ukuba umntu ngamnye lihlabathi kwaye ngokwemiqathango ozifumana ukuyo, kunye nenqanaba ohlala kulo, ukuphupha indlu yangasese kunokuthetha izinto ezininzi. Nangona kunjalo, iya kukunceda usondele kwaye ikuncede ufumane izigqibo ezichanekileyo ezinje ngamaphupha.
Wanna uyazi Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha udaka okanye udaka? Ukuba indawo ohlala kuyo iye yanetha kakhulu kwiintsuku zakutshanje, kwaye zininzi iindawo zodaka okanye zodaka, okanye ukuba uthe wawela eludakeni waza wangcoliswa lulwelo olunodaka, iphupha elinxulumene noko liqhelekile. Kodwa inokubakho imeko yokuba udaka lubonakala ephupheni, lo mhlaba ufumileyo, ngaphandle kwesizathu esibonakalayo
Nangona kunjalo, kuya kufuneka uyithathele ingqalelo into, ukongeza kutoliko oluqhelekileyo oza kulifumana kumhlathi olandelayo, zininzi izinto ezahlukeneyo onokuthi uziqwalasele. Ayizukuthetha into efanayo ukuphupha ngodaka olupheleleyo olungena endlwini yakho, kunokuba umbala otyheli, ukuba amanzi azisa wona acocekile o kunamafu kakhulu. Kuxhomekeka kwiinkcukacha ezibonakala ephupheni, sinokwenza izigqibo ezahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo. Imeko yakho yobuqu iya kuba nefuthe kutoliko.
Isenokubonakala ingaqhelekanga kuwe phupha iigusha kuba ayililo elinye lamaphupha aqhelekileyo akhoyo. Ngokwesiqhelo eli phupha lihlala lifunyanwa ngabo bantu bahlala ubudlelwane rhoqo nesi silwanyana; Nangona kunjalo, nabani na unokuba nephupha elibonakala ngathi liyazenzekela komnye wabo. Kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, lelokuba uninzi lwamaxesha ukutolika kulungile ukusuka kwizimvu inxulunyaniswa nempumelelo nentlalo-ntle yezoqoqosho.
Namhlanje ndifuna ukukufundisa zonke iinkcazo malunga amaphupha neegusha kuba ngokomxholo intsingiselo yahlukile. Kananjalo jonga indlela oziphathe ngayo njengoko izakukunika umbono ongcono wento i-subconscious efuna ukukuxelela yona.