Las izibini ezitshatileyo Bahlala beshiya uphawu olungacimekiyo kubomi bethu, nokuba kungokulungileyo okanye okubi, kodwa… Ungalitolika njani iphupha? Kule nqaku ndiyityhila kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha isoka lakho langaphambili okanye intombi yakho yangaphambili. Kunzima ukulibala uthando lokuqala lobomi bakho. Uhlala uziva unento ekhethekileyo kuye. Kukwakho nezibini eziza kwenza intsika esisiseko kwindaleko yobomi bakho. Kuqhelekile ukuba ube namaphupha ngabo, kokubili okuhle nokubi. Xa umntu ephawula intliziyo yakho, awunakumlibala.
Nangona kunjalo, kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba lelinye lawona maphupha aphambili akhoyo. Akuthethi okufanayo ukuba ubona umyeni wakho wangaphambili kunye neqabane lakhe langoku elila, ukuba nisathandana, nimange. Kwakhona, kusenokwenzeka ukuba lowo wayesakuba ngumyeni wakho ukufuna, mhlawumbi uyalwa. Ukutolikwa kwamaphupha kuyahluka ngokunzulu, ke ngoko, kuyafuneka ukuba ulifunde lonke inqaku kwaye uluchonge ulwazi kwimeko yakho yobuqu.
Iyintoni intsingiselo yokuphupha ngomyeni wakho okanye umfazi wangaphambili?
Awudingi ukwahlukana naye kutshanje ungaphupha umyeni wakho wangaphambili okanye intombi yakho yangaphambili kamva. Ukongeza, iyelenqe linokwenzeka endaweni eyayiyincopho yobudlelwane bakho, indawo yokutyela, ipaki, nkqu nebhentshi apho waphuzwa khona okokuqala. Kulapho ukuthandabuza kukuhlasela: Kutheni ndiphupha nge ex yam? Ngalo mzuzu uyakuva izinto ezininzi, ungacinga ukuba usathandana, ukuba uyamkhumbula, uyazibuza ukuba kutheni isazela sakho sikukhumbuza xa ulele.
Yile nto i-subconscious inayo: ukungalindeleki kwayo. Xa uphupha iqabane lakho ohleli nalo ngalo mzuzu akukho nto yenzekayo, kodwa ukuba indala, amathandabuzo ahlasela abantu abaninzi. Njengomgaqo jikelele oko kuthetha ukuba ushiye umba ungacacanga, ukuba kufuneka umxelele into oyicingayo kwaye wahlukana naye ngokugcina into ekutyayo ngaphakathi.
Isenokuba liphupha elivelayo, mhlawumbi akufuneki ulinike ukubaluleka. Ingxaki ivela xa iinkumbulo ubusuku emva kobusuku, okanye kube kanye ngeveki. Kulapho inkxalabo yokwenene inokuvela khona. Masibone iimeko ezahlukeneyo onokuzifumana xa i-ex yakho ivela kwiingcinga zakho zasebusuku.
Ukuphupha ngokumanga i-ex yakho
Ukuba unephupha apho uphuza khona umntu owawumthanda okanye usenza uthando kuye, oko kuthetha ukuba ubunobomi obunothando obusebenzayo ecaleni kwakhe. Mhlawumbi khange uyenze ixesha elide kwaye yiyo loo nto uphupha ngomsebenzi ofunekayo ebomini bawo wonke umntu. Ukuba awuzange wenze uthando, oko kuthetha ukuba ubungathanda ukugqiba ubudlelwane kunye nesithandwa sakho sangaphambili. Funda nzulu iphupha lokuncamisa apha.
Phupha ngomkhwekazi wakho wangaphambili
Ngamanye amaxesha, endaweni yeqabane lakho langaphambili okanye intombi eyayisakuba yintombi yakho, uba nomfanekiso ngqondweni womkhwekazi wakho wakudala, utatazala okanye elinye ilungu losapho lwabo. Ngaba ibenze ukuba ubomi bakho bungabikho? Ngaba benivana kakubi? Emva koko usenenzondo ngalamntu. Ukuba kwelinye icala niyathandana, ninqwenela ukuphulukana nobudlelwane obabubaluleke kakhulu kuni.
Ndinamaphupha malunga ne-ex yam ekhulelweyo
Nangona kuvakala kuyinto engaqhelekanga, kusenokwenzeka ukuba uphupha malunga nomntu okhulelwe. Olu hlobo lwamaphupha luhlala lukhona iimpawu zokuziva unetyala wento oyenzileyo neqabane lakho elitsha. Wena kwaye akukho mntu wumbi uyayazi loo nto lixesha lokuba ubonakalise kwaye ubone into oyenzileyo kutshanje kwaye awunazingca ngokugqithileyo kuyo.
Ukuphupha ngokukhohlisa kwi-ex yakho
Ngaba uyakhohlisa kwi-ex yakho? Amaphupha ngokungathembeki neqabane lakho langaphambili kunzima ukutolika. Ukwenza oku, kuya kufuneka ulifunde eli nqaku lipheleleyo ku phupha ngokungathembeki kweqabane lam.
Unomona uphupha nge ex yakho
Ukuba i-subconscious yakho ikubonisa i-ex yakho kunye neqabane elitsha kwaye uziva unomona owoyikekayo oko luphawu olucacileyo lokuba uthando kuye aluzange luphele kwaye uyakukhumbula ukwanga kwakhe, uyanganga mihla le, undiphulula.
Ndiphupha nge ex yam kodwa andinamona
Kwelinye icala, ukuba uziva ungamkelwa, Itolikwa ngokufanelekileyo, kuba isitsho kakhulu ngawe: uyakhulisa ubuntu bakho kwaye uyayamkela into yokuba awusoze uphinde ube kunye kwakhona. Ufuna ukuba onwabe kwaye awunamona ngayo. Ukwazile ukwakha ubomi bakho kwakhona kwaye ukulungele ukungena kubudlelwane obutsha.
Ukuphupha i-ex yakho ikubiza rhoqo
La maphupha okanye amaphupha amabi kusenokuba kukubonisa ukuba intombi yakho yangaphambili okanye umfana othandana naye usakufuna ngokwenene. Mhlawumbi ubukhe wathetha ngoku kutsha nje kwaye uyaqonda ukuba uxhomekeke kakhulu ekuqhubekeni ethetha nawe, akonwabanga ukuba akakho nawe. Ngokuqinisekileyo ngaphakathi uyazi ukuba elinye iqela liye laqhuba kakubi emva kokwahlukana. Mhlawumbi lixesha lokuba ubuyele umva ukuba usamthanda. Ukuba akunjalo, ngaba ufanele umncede aphumelele?
Uphupha ubuyela kwi ex yakho
Ukuphupha ngokufumana kwakhona uthando kunye neqabane lakho langaphambili liphupha eliqhelekileyo elifuna ukutolikwa ngokuchanekileyo kuba kuxhomekeke kwimeko kunye nemeko inokuba nokutolika kunye nemvelaphi eyahlukileyo. Ukuba kunjalo, sicebisa ukuba ufunde eli nqaku lipheleleyo malunga nentsingiselo yokuphupha ubuyile kwi-ex yakho.
Ividiyo malunga nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha malunga ne-ex yakho
Ukuba ufumene eli nqaku malunga kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha nge ex yakho, emva koko ndincoma ukuba ufunde ezinye ezinxulumene nazo kudidi lwe amaphupha ngonobumba E.
