Abantu abancinci kunye nabantwana ngabona banamaphupha amabi malunga uleqa bahlala benazo. Ngapha koko, ukutolikwa kweli phupha kuyinto engathandekiyo, kwaye uhlala uvuka ngentliziyo ibetha iwaka ngeyure, unovalo, ngaphandle kokuphumla kwaye unencasa embi emlonyeni wakho. Kweli nqaku uza kwazi ngokweenkcukacha ukuba kuthetha ntoni phupha ukuba bayakuleqa. Nangona kunjalo, iintsingiselo zeli phupha lihluka kakhulu kuxhomekeke ekubeni ngubani okulandelayo, ngubani ozama ukuzifihla kuye.
Ngaba bayakuhlasela? Ngaba bazokubulala? Uzama ukubaleka kodwa awukwazi? Uyawa phakathi kugqatso? Ngaba yayisisilwanyana esasilandela emva kwakho njengenja okanye inyoka, i-monster, ipolisa okanye mhlawumbi ilungu lentsapho onetyala kuyo? Ngaba ukwazile ukubaleka? Njengoko ubona, ukutolika oku kwahluke kakhulu kuxhomekeke kwiimeko zephupha, imeko apho ikhula khona, imeko yakho kunye nexesha ohamba kulo.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha undileqa?
Ngokuqhelekileyo, intshutshiso inxulunyaniswa neenkxalabo zobuqu, ukuziva ukuba kukho into ngasemva kwakho engakuvumeliyo ukuba uzive uzolile nesiqu sakho. Unokubonisa ukuzisola ngokwenza okubi mva nje, ukuba i-subconscious ikubonise Uyazisola ukuba enyanisweni awukwazi ukuveza. Inyathelo lokuqala lokusombulula ingxaki yakho kukucela uxolo kuye nakubani na ekufuneka uyenzile, unikezela ngoncedo lwakho ukufikelela kwisisombululo ngokukhawuleza. Ngapha koko, xa usombulula into ekukhathazayo ngawe, uya kufikelela kwimeko yoxolo lwangaphakathi.
Olunye utoliko malunga nokuphupha utshutshiso
Ukuphupha ukuba uleqwa kukubulala, okanye ukuba ipolisa lilandela umkhondo wakho lize likudubule. Ngaba uziphethe kakubi? Ngaba ukhathaze umhlobo othandekayo kutshanje? Ngaba wenze ukungathembeki kwiqabane lakho?
Eli phupha lidla ngokubonakala xa wenze ububi phambi komntu kwaye umenzakalise kakhulu.
Njengoko benditshilo ngaphambili, ukuyeka ukubandezeleka kwiingcinga zakho zasebusuku kufuneka ubeke iyeza ngokukhawuleza. Fumana kwakhona kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha amapolisa ekuleqa.
Ngaba umqokeleli wengubo yangaphantsi uya kukhangela kwakho? Imele uloyiko lokuhluthwa kwakhona ukuba awunakukwazi ukuhlawula imali. Uziva urhaxiwe kwaye awazi ukuba ungayifumana njani enye imali.
Ndiphupha izinja, ingonyama zindileqa ... Nangona zinobundlobongela, izilwanyana zihlala zilumkisa into kuba umphefumlo wazo ugcwele ubumsulwa.
Kungenzeka ukuba ingqondo yakho izame ukukukwazisa ukuba utshaba okanye umntu okhe waxabana naye uzama ukukuqhatha, akwenzakalise ngasemva kwakho.
Ngapha koko, sele umrhanela kodwa awukayeki ukucinga ngokucophelela. Ngumntu ofuna ukuthatha ithuba lento yakho okanye ofuna ukukubona kwindawo ehlekisayo.
Ukuba yinyoka esemva kwakho, ndikucebisa ukuba ufunde ifayile ye- ukutolikwa kwamaphupha malunga neenyoka.
Ngaba yayisesilo? Ngokuqinisekileyo yayingunyana wakho oziva etshutshiswa nguye. Ngabona banengcinga ezininzi kwaye bavuka belila befuna abazali babo.
Konke okufuneka ukwenze kukumqinisekisa, umenze abone ukuba liphupha nje kwaye umenze ukuba abuye alale ezandleni zakho: ngale ndlela, uya kuziva ekhuselekile.
Ngaba bayakuleqa kodwa abafikeleli kuwe? Oko kuthetha ukuba wenza eyakho indima ukuphuma emingxunyeni, ukuba unesimo sengqondo esomeleleyo kwaye uyayilwela eyakho ukuba woyise nabuphi na ubunzima.
Inokwenzeka kuphela ukuphupha okwahlukileyo nokutolika okuhle Ngokumalunga nokusukela, apho ungayeki ukubaleka de ubaleke.
Ukuba wenza into efanayo ebomini bokwenyani, ungathandabuzi, onke amaxhala akho aya kuba ngamabali empumelelo onokubalisa. Yazi ifayile ye intsingiselo yokuphupha ubaleka umntu.
Uyawa kwaye bayakufikelela? Kule meko, uya kuvuka kanye xa lowo ukuleqayo ekubambile.
Ezinye izazi ngengqondo ziyakuchaza oko luphawu lokungafuni kwakho ukuphelisa imiqobo yemihla ngemihla, ukuba kunzima kuwe ukufumana izisombululo kwaye kufuneka ubeke iibhetri zakho ukunqanda ukubandezeleka.
Ngaba unayo imali mboleko ongayibhatala kwaye uyenze ukuba iphele inyanga? Ngaba intombi okanye isithandwa sakho sikunikile isigqibo?
Ukuphupha uleqa omnye umntu. Inokwenzeka kwakhona ukuba nguwe okhangela umntu nosukelayo.
Into eqhelekileyo kukuba unento ngokuchasene naloo mntu. Ukuba unetyala kuwe, ukuba ulwile kutshanje, ukuba akathembekanga, ukuba uye wakutyhila okanye wakuhlasela. Bonisa ubuso bakho umxelele ukuba ucinga ntoni ngaye, uhlala enesimilo.
Ukuba eli nqaku malunga intsingiselo yokuphupha uleqwa, Ndikucebisa ukuba ufunde ngakumbi kwicandelo: P.
Molo, unjani bhen usuku, kanye kanye ndivukile ndiphupha oku, ngamanye amaxesha kuyinyani, kangangokuba ndivuka ndinoloyiko namaxhala Ewe, ubomi endibuphilileyo abukho lula ngenxa yendawo endihlala kuyo, ibisoloko iphupha izinto ezingaqhelekanga, mva nje nomlamu wam ophantse kuwo onke amaphupha afuna ukundenzakalisa okanye ukundenzakalisa kwaye ngaphambili ebenengxaki, mna ufuna ukwazi, ngaba kuya kuhlala kunjalo? Ndiza kuhlala ndinoloyiko okanye into ekufuneka ndiyenzile kuxolo lwangaphakathi olulungileyo ngaphandle kweengcinga ezimbi
Konke oku kundenza ndicinge ukuba andingomntu ulungileyo
Molo molo.
Ndikhe ndaphupha into enye kabini amatyeli ohlukeneyo, ndiphupha ukuba utat'omkhulu uyasweleka, emveni kokuba iimoto zokudlala ziqala ukuphuma zihamba zodwa eziza kum, utatomkhulu wam uza kundileqa kunye nentombazana. Emva koko ndithetha notata wam kwaye ndimxelele ukuba kufuneka ndifumane umntu onokuyithatha loo nto kum athi ewe, kufanele.
Andazi ukuba kuthetha ntoni oko kwaye kuyandikhathaza.