Amaphupha yinxalenye yobomi bethu, kukho amaphupha abukhali ekufuneka siwakhumbule kwaye kukho amanye afanelekileyo, ahlala esiza nomyalezo omncinci ukuba uwuphande ngaphakathi kwawo. Kuzo zonke iinxalenye zephupha kuhlala kukho izinto, iintshukumo okanye iminyhadala ethi baqala ngonobumba u-E, Zonke zinentsingiselo ethile onokuyifumana kwicandelo lethu lamagama.
Ukuba uyawathanda amaphupha okuchaza, le yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuqonda ukuba yinxalenye yakho kunye nendlela oziva ngayo. Ukujonga intsingiselo yayo uya kuba nakho ukufumana yonke into ezisa ngaphakathi kwephupha lakho kwaye wazi ukuba ungayenza njani xa ujongene naloo mbono.
Xa usemncinci kwaye kufuneka uye eklasini, ukuphupha ngesikolo asiyonto oyifunayo, ngakumbi ekubeni sele unokwaneleyo ukuchitha iiyure ezingama-5-6 apho. Noko ke, ngaba wakha wacinga ukuba eli phupha linokuba nentsingiselo?
Kuthekani ukuba uyaphupha, ngoku umdala, wesikolo? Kuthekani ukuba ubona abantwana besiya esikolweni? Ngezantsi sityhila yonke into ofuna ukuyazi malunga nolu hlobo lwamaphupha. Ngaba iya kuba yekhayo okanye embi?
Bathi amaphupha ngamaphupha. Kodwa eneneni kuhlala kukho imiyalezo evela kwi-subconscious yakho, ukuba uyayazi indlela yokuyitolika, inokukunceda kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla. Nokuba kukutshintsha okanye ukuba nethemba lento eza kuza kuwe. Ezinye zifana namaphupha amabi, njengokuphupha emeva. Enyanisweni, nangona kusithiwa intlungu ayinakuviwa, sinayo loo mvakalelo.
Kodwa kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngameva? Ngaba yinto entle okanye embi? Kwenzeka ntoni ukuba ufumana ameva ezandleni okanye ezinyaweni zakho? Kwaye ukuba ubabambe ngesandla sakho? Ukuba ukhe waphupha ngabo Okulandelayo sikunika izitshixo ukuze uqonde intsingiselo yayo.
Wanna uyazi Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha izinyuko? I izitebhisi ezinye zezinto ezikhoyo kule mihla yethu, ngaphandle kwazo ubomi buya kuba nzima. Naphi na apho uya khona uya kufumana izinyuko ezininzi, uya kuzinyuka, uya kuzihla, ujonge kwizitepsi ukuze ungawi kwaye ucinge ngezinto oqhele ukuzenza mihla le. Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ngokuchazwa kwamaphupha, kufuneka uyazi loo nto amaphupha ngezinyuko ahluke kakhulu.
Unokubona izinyuko ngomthi, ngombane okanye ngoomatshini, ezimile okomnwe, ezaphukileyo okanye ezinde nezimhlophe. Ngaba zimxinwa okanye zibanzi? Ngaba uyabanyusa okanye uyabathoba? Ngaba zenziwe ngesamente kwaye ziyaphuka? Ezi ziinkcukacha ezibaluleke xa usenza uhlalutyo lwe-psychoanalysis, kwaye zonke zichazwe kakuhle apha. Umxholo wephupha ubalulekile kwaye nguwe kuphela oya kuyiqonda intsingiselo yokugqibela, ukukunceda ngala manqaku alandelayo.
Phupha nge ex yakho Luhlobo lwamaphupha awakhe abakho ngaphezu komnye wethu. Eyona nto ixhaphakileyo kukuba itolikwe ukuba kukho izinto ekumele zithethwe kwaye zihlala zilindile ngexesha. Kungenzeka ukuba ubudlelwane buphele ngexesha elifanelekileyo kwaye awuzazi esona sizathu sokuba bekushiye. Ngayiphi na imeko, ihlala inxulumene ne- Imicimbi esalindelwe.
Ngoku i intsingiselo yokuphupha ubuyile ne ex yakhoNgendlela efanayo eyenzeka ngamaphupha amaninzi, inokutshintsha kakhulu kwaye ayisoloko inxulumana nolwalamano obenalo nomntu. Unokuba nento oyilindeleyo ebomini bakho ofuna ukuyigqiba.
Las izibini ezitshatileyo Bahlala beshiya uphawu olungacimekiyo kubomi bethu, nokuba kungokulungileyo okanye okubi, kodwa… Ungalitolika njani iphupha? Kule nqaku ndiyityhila kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha isoka lakho langaphambili okanye intombi yakho yangaphambili. Kunzima ukulibala uthando lokuqala lobomi bakho. Uhlala uziva unento ekhethekileyo kuye. Kukwakho nezibini eziza kwenza intsika esisiseko kwindaleko yobomi bakho. Kuqhelekile ukuba ube namaphupha ngabo, kokubili okuhle nokubi. Xa umntu ephawula intliziyo yakho, awunakumlibala.
Nangona kunjalo, kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba lelinye lawona maphupha aphambili akhoyo. Akuthethi okufanayo ukuba ubona umyeni wakho wangaphambili kunye neqabane lakhe langoku elila, ukuba nisathandana, nimange. Kwakhona, kusenokwenzeka ukuba lowo wayesakuba ngumyeni wakho ukufuna, mhlawumbi uyalwa. Ukutolikwa kwamaphupha kuyahluka ngokunzulu, ke ngoko, kuyafuneka ukuba ulifunde lonke inqaku kwaye uluchonge ulwazi kwimeko yakho yobuqu.
Ukuba unikwe iifoto zikaKumkani esiya eBotswana ukuya kuzingela elephants Okanye ubabonile bebaleka kwaye besondla amaxwebhu, njengaxa uhamba isafari eKenya, i-subconscious inokukhupha iphupha elinxulumene noko. Ezi zilwanyana zingcwele kwizizwe ezininzi zaseAfrika, "umgodi wegolide" kwabanye oosomashishini abathengisa iimpondo zendlovu. Kodwa usenokuba ucinga ngazo ngelixa ulele ngaphandle kwesizathu. Kule nqaku ndicacisa ngokweenkcukacha Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha iindlovu.
Phambi kokunikezela kutoliko, ndiyakukhumbuza ukuba ayithethi into efanayo ukubona a usana lwendlovu lubhukuda emanzini okanye ukubaleka, ewe uyaphila okanye ufile, ukudlala okanye ukucaphuka. Umxholo ubaluleke kakhulu ukuze uqonde ukuba uphuphe ntoni, kunye nenqanaba ohlala ngalo mzuzu.
Ufuna ukwazi ukuba yintoni Ngaba kuthetha ukuphupha umbungu, ilindle okanye ikaka? Nangona inokubonakala ngathi yenye indlela, inyani yile amaphupha endle okanye indle Ziqhelekile. Uninzi lwabantwana kunye nabantu abadala baphupha bezikhulula ebhedini, kwaye, ngelishwa, xa bevuka bayaqonda ukuba yile nto yenzekileyo. Ukutolikwa kwahluka kakhulu ngokuxhomekeke kumntu ngamnye nakwimeko enika iphupha.
Ayizukufana ukubona a isitulo somntwana okanye umntu omdala, ukuba a Umbungu wezilwanyana njengenja, impuku, umvundla. Indawo ekuyo poop nayo iya kuba nemicimbi emininzi, ukuba sifumene ilindle kwindawo ethile okanye ukuba ngokuchaseneyo siyikhuphile. Iintsingiselo zinokwahluka kakhulu.
Los zivumi, IiUFOs kunye nobukho obungaphaya kwendalo bukho kakhulu kwinxalenye yobomi bethu. Iphupha lemimoyaKe ngoko, inentsingiselo engaphakathi enxulumene nathi. Ngokwesiqhelo liphupha elibonakalisa kufuneka sitshintshe indlela esiziphatha ngayo, kodwa ngokuxhomekeke kwiimeko apho ikhula kunye nenqanaba esihlala kulo, iintsingiselo ezininzi ezinokucingwa. Umzekelo, ukuba ipoltergeist ayibangeli uloyiko, itolikwa ngokufanelekileyo, kwelinye icala, ukuba yenye indlela ejikelezileyo, kufuneka ithathelwe ingqalelo.
Ukuba ufuna ukwazi yonke into malunga Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha malunga nokukhulelwa?, kweli nqaku siza kuzama ukuba ngqo njengoko kunokwenzeka. Ukukhulelwa lelinye lawona maxesha abalulekileyo ebomini bomfazi. Unobomi obuza ngaphakathi kuwe kwaye buya kutshintsha ubomi bakho ngonaphakade. Njengoko inqanaba elibaluleke kangaka, ayiqhelekanga phupha malunga nokukhulelwaNokuba sele unomntwana wakho ezandleni zakho.
Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ufunde ukutolikwa kwamaphupha, kuya kufuneka wazi ukuba zininzi iimeko ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe. Ayizufana lonto xa sizibona simithi, ngokungathi omnye umntu ukhulelwe. Kananjalo ayizukufana into yokuba ukhulelwe inkwenkwe, intombazana, amawele, abathathu. Konke oku kwahluka kunesizathu sokubakho kwaye iya kuba yinto ekuya kufuneka siyifundile ukufumana intsingiselo ngqo.