Yiba uphupha ukhiye kuvamile kunoma yimuphi ubudala futhi kunoma ibuphi ubulili. Okhiye babaluleke kakhulu ezimpilweni zethu ngoba bavula iminyango yendlu yethu, inkampani, noma enye indawo esibophezelekile kuyo, futhi nokuba yindlela ebalulekile yokuyivala.
Kunezimbangela eziningi ezingaba yisizathu phupha ngezikhiye: Kungenzeka ukuthi zisanda kwebiwa futhi kufanele ushintshe izingidi. Kulokhu, ukuqonda okungaphansi komqondo kumelela nje indaba oke waphila phambilini, yize kusontekile kancane. Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukutolika iphupho ngezikhiye, kubalulekile ukuthi wazi yonke imininingwane yephupho oliphuphile.
Ukuphupha okhiye abonakele kungahle kungasho okufanayo nokulahleka kwabo, ukuthola ukhiye wegolide, noma ukuba nokhiye abangavuli ingidi ephambi kwakho. Le mininingwane izokusiza uthole incazelo ngqo.
Kusho ukuthini ukuphupha okhiye?
Amaphupho anezihluthulelo imvamisa asho isimo somphuphi se lawula izimo emhlabeni wangempela, ikhono lakho lokubhekana nezithiyo nokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nezinkinga zansuku zonke. Uma ucabanga ukuthi konke ungaphansi kokulawulwa, uma konke kusebenza ngokohlelo oselukhuphulile, yilokhu iphupho elikutshela khona. Ekugcineni, isimo sakho uqobo yiso esizoshintsha incazelo yokuphupha okhiye.
Ukuphupha ukuthi awukwazi ukuthola okhiye
Ubheka emaphaketheni akho, ubheka ebhantshini, ubheka yonke indawo…. kodwa lutho, awukwazi ukuthola okhiye. Leli yiphupho esivame kakhulu ukuba nalo. Isibonelo, ake ucabange ukuthi uzongena emotweni bese ungakwazi ukubathola (lapha ungazi kusho ukuthini ukuphupha ngemoto) noma uma ungena endlini yakho futhi ngokungazelelwe uyabona ukuthi awukwazi ukubathola ephaketheni lakho. Ochwepheshe bathi lokhu kusho ukuthi uku umzuzu onzima wokuphila kwakho lapho uzizwa unesizungu khona, ukhishwe inyumbazane nalapho ushiye imizwa yakho ihlukene phakathi. Cabanga ngokuthi ngabe uke waba nokuhlangenwe nakho okwenze wacabanga kanjena. Ungadinga ukukhuluma nochwepheshe ukuze uveze le micabango egxilile.
Iphupho lokhiye begolide
Izinto zegolide (ungafunda ngazo phupha igolide) uhalelwa kakhulu futhi emaphusheni ahlobene nokuthanda izinto ezibonakalayo, nokunethezeka. Cishe ikutshela nje lokho osukwazi kakade: ukuthi ukuthanda kakhulu uthole imali futhi ngibe nokunethezeka okukhulu…. ungomunye walabo abangahlali kahle kokuncane.
Uphupha ukhiye usugugile
Ingabe izikhiye zazindala? Iminyaka yokhiye isitshela okuningi ngokulala. Uma zindala kakhulu, ngisho nalezo ozisebenzise esikhathini esedlule, mhlawumbe lezi okuthile okungathandeki ukulangazelela izikhathi ezingcono ezedlule. Kusho ukuthi ungathanda ukubuyela emuva emuva kulezo zikhathi, okungenani imizuzwana embalwa.
Phupha okhiye ababili abafanayo
Leli phupho lisho lokho ungumuntu oqaphile impela okulindele konke okungakenzeki. Leli khono lingakusiza ukuthi ubhekane nobuhlungu. Kodwa-ke, uma kwenzeka ukulala kucasula ngandlela thile, mhlawumbe kufanele wehlise ijubane impilo yakho, unciphise ukucindezeleka emsebenzini nasebudlelwaneni bakho bomuntu siqu.
Ukuphupha ngokuvala ingidi ngokhiye
Uma uphupha ukuthi uvala ukhiye ngokhiye, sibhekene nephupho elingajwayelekile kakhulu ngoba into ejwayelekile kakhulu ukuthi uvula izingidi, hhayi ukuthi uyawavala. Lokhu kungahunyushwa njengoba unjalo ivale ku-bubble yakho, ukuthi ugcine imicabango yakho futhi ungahlanganyeli nemizwa. Kungenzeka futhi ukuthi usesikhathini esinzima sezomnotho nokuthi ukhetha ukuhoxa kancane kuwe. Uma okhiye bephukile ephusheni, bekungaba inkomba yokungaqiniseki.
Iphupho lokuvula ingidi
Njengoba sishilo, leli phupho livamile kakhulu kunelokuqala. Kulokhu kusho ukuthi usanda kwenza isinqumo esibalulekile empilweni yakho futhi lokho kukukhulule ezinkingeni eziningi. Awusazi ukuthi isinqumo siyiso esifanele noma cha, kepha okungenani usususile isisindo sokuthi uthathe isinqumo.
Uma lokhu kuchazwa mayelana phupha ngezikhiye Ubucabanga ukuthi kulungile noma uma ufuna ukufaka okuthile kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho siqu, khumbula ukuthi ungakwenza ngokusebenzisa imibono.
