Kule nqaku ndicacisa ngokweenkcukacha Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha imela. I iimpuku Zizinto zekhitshi eziluncedo kakhulu kwaye ngokungathandabuzekiyo yenye yezona zinto zinomdla kwaye zisetyenzisiweyo kuluntu. Ngombulelo kubo asidingi ukuba amazinyo ethu asike ukutya, asizenzakalisi kwaye sithintela inkqubo yethu yokwetyisa ukuba isebenze ngaphezulu kwemfuneko.
Yonke imihla sinemela ezandleni zethu kwaye singayisebenzisa kaninzi, yiyo loo nto kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ubaphuphe. Nangona kunjalo, kuqala ndifuna ukukuxelela loo nto zininzi iindlela zokutolikanjengoko umxholo unokwahluka kakhulu. Oko kukuthi, oko akuthethi okufanayo ukuphupha uxobula iitapile, uphangwa kwaye ubeka imela entanyeni yakho, okanye ugcwele ligazi. Ngaba kukho imilo ebandakanyekayo? Ziphukile? Okanye ubona nje ikhitshi elibekwe ngeefolokhwe kunye neenkamba? Ngaba yigolide okanye isilivere? Njengoko ubona, zininzi izinto ezinokwenzeka kwaye ndifuna ukukubonisa zonke.
Ukuphupha ngokuba nemela ezandleni zakho
Ngokwababhali abaninzi, ukuba nemela ezandleni zakho ephupheni kuthetha unamandla okwenza izigqibo. Ayisiyiyo kuphela indawo yokusika, abanye bayithatha njengeyona ndawo ibalaseleyo, kunye neemela. Xa usebenzisa enye ebukhali, unamandla akwaneleyo okukhusela ngaxeshanye onokuyisebenzisa ukuhlasela.
Uyazi ukuba wenzeni ngayo kwaye amandla asezandleni zakho. Ke ngoko, kuqhelekile ukuba uhlalutyo lwe-psychoanalysis lunxulunyaniswe nenxalenye yobomi bakho obukhokelayo. Ngaba ungumphathi onoxanduva oluninzi? Mhlawumbi uyintloko yosapho, ngubani ozisa ingeniso ethe chatha ekhayeni? Kodwa ubukhulu becala awuziva uchongiwe neli phupha liphupha, kuba kukho ezinye iindlela ezahlukeneyo zephuphaApha ngezantsi, siza kuchaza nganye nganye ukuze, kunye nomxholo ofundiswa yi-subconscious, ungaya kuphumla ngengqondo ezolileyo kunye nentsingiselo ecacisiweyo.
Ukuphupha uhlaselwa ngemela
Ukhe wahlaselwa ngemela? Amaxesha amaninzi kuphupha ukuba uzolile evenkileni okanye ebhankini kwaye ngesiquphe kuvela umphangi kwaye ubeke isixhobo sakhe entanyeni yomntu. Ngaba unokuthetha uloyiko lwakho lokungcatshwa. Ubuhlobo obungeyonyani obufumanisayo, abantu abasondela kuwe ngenxa yomdla kunye nokukrokrela kubo, iqabane elinawe ngemali yakho. Kwaye uziva ngathi ungahlatywa nanini na. Xa uvuka kubusuku obubi, zama ukucinga ukuba ngaba umntu ufuna ngenene ukusebenzisa isisa sakho. Ukuba iphupha alihambi, thetha ngezinto ozikhathaleleyo nomntu omthembileyo.
Phupha ngemela enegazi
Ukuba uphupha ngemela enegazi etafileni okanye ozisebenzisayo, itolikwa njenge ngaphandle kokuzisola. Ngaba ukhe wangcatsha umntu? Ngaba ukhe walwa nomntu omthandayo kwaye waqonda ukuba yimpazamo yakho? Ukuba umonzakalisile, i-subconscious inokukubonisa umyalezo wokuzisola, nokuba ziinyanga okanye iminyaka emva komsitho. Kwelinye icala, imela enegazi ifuzisela uloyiko lokufa. Iphupha le-psychoanalysis limisela ukuba awufuni ukushiya eli hlabathi ngaphandle kokuphila ngaphezulu, uyoyika ukuba ukufa kusondela kuwe.
Iphupha leemela eziqhekekileyo
Amaphupha esi sitya sasekhitshini siphukileyo atolikwa njenge ukungabikho kokhuseleko. Ungumntu onamathandabuzo amaninzi akhoyo, awucacanga malunga nendlela oyithathayo okanye injongo ebomini bakho. Ngenxa yoko, imela ophuphayo ngayo yahlulwe, yalolwa kakubi okanye ayisiki kakuhle. Amandla akho okuthatha isigqibo ayancipha. Mhlawumbi into oyifunayo kukuya emntwini umxelele onke amathandabuzo akho, okanye uthathe ngqo iholide, hamba uhambo lokomoya (funda ngakumbi malunga phupha ngohambo).
Ndikucebisa ukuba usebenzise zonke izibonelelo onazo ukuphelisa ukungazithembi.
Ukuphupha uthengisa iimela
Ukuphupha uthengisa iimela kufanekisela abazali abanethuku lokukhusela ngaphezulu kwabantwana babo.
Ukuphupha unika abanye abantu iimela
Xa uphupha unika umntu ngamnye imela ukuba azikhusele, ngendlela ebonisa ubuntu obungaphaya kokukhusela, ukhathalele ukhuseleko lomzimba losapho lwakho, abahlobo bakho kunye nobudlelwane obubalulekileyo. Awufuni kwenzeke nantoni na kubo kwaye unokwenza nantoni na ukubakhusela xa kukho imfuneko. Alithandabuzeki elokuba iyintsingiselo elungileyo.
Ividiyo ngentsingiselo yokuphupha ngeemela
Ukuba ufumene eli nqaku malunga Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha imela, ke ndicebisa ukuba ufunde ezinye ezinxulumene noko kudidi yamaphupha aqala ngonobumba C.
Impendulo entle kakhulu….
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngeemela ezi-2 ngesiphatho esiluhlaza. Zizinto esizitya etafileni.
Ndisandula ukuphupha into engaqhelekanga, andikhumbuli nokuba bendinemela esandleni sam, ukusuka kumzuzu omnye ukuya kolandelayo iwela phantsi (ephupheni lam bekucingelwa ukuba yayingu-3 am), kwakwelo phupha linye ndiphuphe utat'omkhulu endixelela Masibone, khangela i-intanethi oko kuthetha ukuba uphupha imela iwela ngo-3 ekuseni, ndizokuxelela ngoku Emva koko xa ndizokufuna ubuthongo kule ndawo yokuba ndilele ndivula amehlo kwaye ndaziva ukuba ndimbonile usathana umzuzwana emva koko ndavala amehlo am. Ke ngamandla ndavuka kwaye ubuso bomtyholi babuyinyani yam. Inye into endifuna ukuyongeza kukuba bendilele ngesisu kwaye xa ndivuka intliziyo yam ibibaleka.
Ndiphupha ukuba ndihleli neqabane lam, sihleli kwaye kufike abafana aba-3. Omnye wabo uhlasele iqabane lam kwaye unemikhosi emibini ngokuchasene naye Ngelixa ngqo ngqo ngeemela ezincinci ziqala ukusilahla, enye ichaza indlebe yam, kunye nezinye ezininzi. kunoba baya kumlingane wam kodwa yena ngokuzola uhlatyiwe ngokusondeleyo kodwa njengoko enxibile kwaye angamgqobhozi, emva koko ubamba iimela weza ebulala abathathu ngoxolo olupheleleyo ngelixa bendisoyika kakhulu
Ndiphuphe ndibona unyana wam ehamba nomzala wakhe
Umzala wayephanga abantu ngemela kwaye abo banika imali bavunyelwe ukuba badlule kwaye abo babengamzala
Ndamhlaba esiswini ndabona igazi
Ndababona kuba ndandifihliwe
Unyana wam ebengenazixhobo, ibinguye ogcina imali ekuphangeni umzala
Indawo ibiyinto embi kakhulu bekukho nodaka kuba bekukhe kwana bendisoyika
Ndiphuphe ndikhona apho ootatomkhulu noomakhulu kwaye ukusuka ngomzuzu omnye ukuya komnye kufika amanye amanene kwaye omnye wabo wandibamba wandijula phezulu ndaza ndahlala kakuhle ngaphezulu komhlaba ndaqala ukuphosa iimela ezininzi kodwa kungekho nanye kuzo endandihlala ndikwazi ukubamba kubo ndiyehla ndihlale phantsi kwaye ndothuke kakhulu kuba khange ndikwazi ukufumana nayiphi na imela ungandixelela ukuba ithetha ntoni.
Ndiphuphe ndihamba nomzala wam kwaye emva kwexesha ndibone isithandwa sam sangaphambili kwaye ndiqhubeka ndihamba emva koko uye wafika kum wanditsala igxalaba wandifaka imela esiswini ndabe ndifa isiqaqa emva koko umzala wam akasekho ngecala lam.
Baye bandisa ke esibhedlele wafika utata wafike wandithethisa ngento eyenzekileyo ndamxelela ba undihlabile ukuze utata amke bazogula, bathi utata wakho uswelekile ndothuka emva koko Ngelixa utata wam ebonakala kodwa enesiqingatha
Molo!
Ndiphuphe umama, ubhuti kunye nam sihlasela utata wam ndingade ndimbulale, kodwa ndingamhlabi kuphela kodwa naye enze njalo nakuthi, ndiyacacisa ukuba andihlali naye kwaye andibonanga okanye Ndathetha naye ukusukela kwiminyaka eyi-1 eyadlulayo kwaye xa ndavuka ndisiva ukuhlaba ...
Ndiphuphe ndibulala umntu ngencakuba ndaze ndenzakalisa omnye ngelinye ukuzikhusela. Ndavuka ndinoloyiko olukhulu kunye nokukhathazeka
Ndiphuphe umakhulu wam ongasekhoyo endinika imela, andazi ukuba ithetha ukuthini.
Ndiphuphe iimela ezininzi ezijinga emthini we-yunzada ndawutyala umthi kwaye izipho beziziimela ngaphezulu kwezinye izinto.
Umzala wam waphupha ngam ukuba umntu owayesakuba liqabane lam kwiminyaka eli-10 esasikunye naye wandihlaba ngengalo enkulu ngemela kodwa engaliboni igazi oko kuya kuthetha ukuba
Hee, ndiya ekhitshini ndabona ukuba umntu uthabatha indawo yokucheba asuse ... ndabe ndiphuma, ndisiya apho bakhoyo oonogada ndibambe omnye wabo ngaphambili ndibize ukuba iimela zam ziyavela ukuba zindibile ngefestile yendlu yam ... Kwaye bekukho abantu abaninzi ... Kodwa xa ebuyela endlwini ... Ndiqaphele ukuba babuyiselwe endaweni yabo.
Ndiphuphe ndinemela ezandleni zam ndonzakalisa abantu abaliqela abasondela kum, ndibahlaba, bendisoyika kwaye ndinovalo ephupheni kodwa abo bantu bebengafuni ukundilimaza kwaye bendingafuni ukubalimaza kodwa Andazi ukuba kutheni ndiyenzile, ke apho.
Ndiphuphe ukuba ephupheni lam ndiqhawule isitho somntu ndabuya ndaphila ndabe ndikhangela, andazi ukuba oko kuthetha ntoni
Ndiphuphe ndidlala nabahlobo abaliqela njengohlobo lwekhonkco ndisebenzisa iimela njengeetshipsi. Babeziimela ezinobukhulu obahlukeneyo.
Ndiphuphe kukho umntu obhinqileyo one pleat siyalwa naye, ndithathe isipaji sakhe ndikhuphe imela yekhitshi ephethwe ngomthi ne point ebukhali ndiyithatha ezandleni zam, izigqubuthelo, ndivula nendoda I andazi kwaye umfazi ukuyo. Ndiguqa eAsia mi
Ndiphuphe ukuba bandileqa ngesithuthuthu kwaye emva kokuba ndifike ekhaya ndathatha imela kwaye omnye umntu ngesithuthuthu weza nemela, ela phupha lalimangalisa kakhulu.
Ndiphuphe abantu basekhaya abayi2 bedlala ngemela behleka bejonge kum ndathatha imela kubo ndayijula ebaleni.
Ndiphuphe ndibona indoda ikhupha iimela ezimnyama izibeke etafileni bezininzi ndathi kutheni ebeka iimela ezingaka phezu kwetafile?