Apha sichaza ukuba yintoni kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha echibini lokuqubha. Kuqhelekile ukuphupha iphuli ukuba uphoswa lihlobo, uye eholideyini, uphumle elunxwemeni, okanye uziqhelanise nemisebenzi yamanzi enjengokubhukuda. Ukuba uthanda ukudada emanzini, amathuba okuba i-subconscious yakho ikuthumele imifanekiso ukwanelisa loo mnqweno, okanye ukukukhumbuza ukuba uyaphoswa.
Kodwa kunokuba kunjalo ukuba iphupha ledama lokubhukuda livela ngaphandle kwesizathu. Kulapho kuya kufuneka utolike ukuba kunokuthetha ntoni.
Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba uqale nokutolika, kufuneka wazi ukuba intsingiselo iyahluka ngokuxhomekeke kumxholo. Umzekelo, ayizukufana ukuphupha lonto uhlamba echibini kucace gca (okuthetha uxolo nokuzola), kunaleyo imdaka kakhulu (inxulunyaniswa nobukho bokuzisola ngokwenza into engalunganga). Gcina ukhumbula zonke iinkcukacha ezivele ephupheni kwaye unokufikelela kwisigqibo esichaneke ngakumbi.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha kumachibi okudada?
Iingcali zephupha le-Psychoanalysis ziyavuma ukuba iphupha malunga namachibi okudada Inxulumene nenkululeko esiyivayo xa siqubha ngokusebenzisa amanzi okanye xa usenza imisebenzi yamanzi.
Inyani yokuntywila, nokuba emanzini okanye emoyeni, iyonwabisa kakhulu. Inqaku lamanzi likwayanyaniswa nephupha elityhila kakhulu (jonga ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha amanzi). Ngokubanzi, iphupha elo libonisa ukuba uhambelana ngokugqibeleleyo, kwixesha apho kungekho nto iyenye ibalulekileyo ngaphandle koko yiva kamnandi. Ithi kakhulu malunga nobuntu bakho: Zolile, ulungile, ukuba ungabi nomsindo ngobubhanxa.
Nangona kunjalo, kukho impikiswano malunga nalo: kukwakhona iingcali ezithi eli phupha libonisa ukuba unoxinzelelo kakhulu, ukuba awunako ukuzisusa ezo ngcinga zingakuvumeli ukuba ulale ebusuku. Ukuba kunjalo, unokufuna iholide, uhambe naphi na (ke malunga iphupha lokuhamba). Ukuba iingxaki ziya zanda kangangokuba zingakuvumeli ulale, kunokwenzeka ukuba umfanekiso wedama lokudada ubonakala kwi-subconscious yakho: ibaluleke ngakumbi kunokuba ibonakala, kuba inxulunyaniswa nemfuno ekufuneka uyikhuphile , ukuzihlaziya ngaphakathi, nokuphucula impilo yakho.
Njengoko unokufunda, ezi zezona zinto zimbini zitoliko zixhaphakileyo elinokuba nalo iphupha lechibi. Ukukhanya ngakumbi kwi intsingiselo yephupha lakho Eminye imiba kuyakufuneka ithathelwe ingqalelo, njengomxholo wephupha, kunye nemeko yakho. Kwaye, ukuba ufuna idatha engaphezulu, emva koko ungabona ezi nkcazo zilandelayo kwicandelo elingezantsi: kwaye ngekhe kube buhlungu ukuthatha ingqalelo intsingiselo yokuphupha ngolwandle.
Ukuphupha ichibi elikhulu lamaza
Ngaba ukhe waphupha ichibi elinamaza amakhulu? Kule bhlog sibone ixesha eladlulayo inqaku malunga intsingiselo yokuphupha ngamaza. Ngokuqhelekileyo liphupha elenzeka kwabo bantu baphila ixesha loxolo uphawu, kodwa ayizukuthatha ixesha ukugqiba. Ukubuyela emsebenzini, ukujongana nesimangalo ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo, okanye nayiphi na enye imeko inokunyusa ukuhamba kwamaza.
Ukuphupha ngokuntywila echibini
Ukuba uphupha ukuba uyatshona echibini kuya kuthetha oko intloko yakho sele iqokelela iingxaki ezininzi kakhulu kwaye kuloo phupha awungekhe uphinde uyithathe. Ukuba zininzi iingxaki ebomini bakho, amaphupha ngokuntywila aqhelekile. Kuya kufuneka uye eholideyini kwaye ingqondo yakho ibhabhe.
Iphupha ledama lokudada elimdaka
Ukuba uphupha ngepuli engcolileyo luphawu lokuba uziva uzisola ngezenzo zakho. Ukungcola echibini kunxulunyaniswa nengqondo yakho kwaye kubonisa ukuba uziva uzisola ngento oyenzileyo kutsha nje. Kuyafana noko kwenzekayo xa phupha ngodaka. Ukuchasana nje nokwenzekayo xa uphupha ngekristale ecacileyo, ecocekileyo necacileyo.
Iphupha ledama elingenanto
Ukuba ipuli ayinanto kwaye inobunzulu obuninzi, ihlala inxulumene nokungazithembi kokuphupha ngawe. Ingayiyo awuzazi iindlela oza kuzithatha ebomini bakho, ukuba wenzeni ngokulandelayo (ukuba uqala ubudlelwane obunothando, loluphi uhlobo lomsebenzi oza kuwukhetha, ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba uyalithanda iqabane lakho). Kuya kufuneka uyilandele intliziyo yakho kwaye ujonge kubantu ekunqabileyo ukuba ububoleke kuyo.Ukuba lichibi elingenanto nelinzulu, elingenamanzi, oko kuhlala kubonisa ukhuseleko lwakho Awazi ukuba zeziphi iindlela oza kuzithatha ebomini bakho, ukuba uye phi.
Ukuphupha ichibi eligcwele ziintlanzi
Ngaba uphuphe ngephuli enkulu egcwele iintlanzi? Kuya kufuneka uyazi i intsingiselo yokuphupha ngeentlanzi.
Ukuqhubeka nokuxhasa ulwazi kule bhlog, sifuna ukwazi iinkcukacha zephupha lakho ngamachibi okudada.
Kwezi zimvo ungenza elakho igalelo: singathanda ukwazi ukuba amanzi acocekile, ukuba ebemdaka kakhulu, ezele ludaka, ukuba urhaxwa, ukuba ubhukuda ngoxolo… Ukongeza kutoliko obenalo ukunika yiyo.
Ividiyo yokuphupha ngephuli
Sele uyazi yonke into oyifunayo kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha echibini lokuqubha, kule migca ilandelayo ukuze ukwazi ukufunda enye Intsingiselo ehambelana nonobumba P.
Ndiphuphe ndinomlingane wam eholideyini ndihlola ihotele endisuka kuyo ndifumana iphuli ngaphakathi kwehotele kubonakala ngathi incinci kodwa ndathi ndakungena ndabona ukuba inzulu kwaye inemizila emi-2 ngokungathi yandisiwe kumgangatho osezantsi Amanzi ayecaca gca, kodwa ndaziva ndisondele ngaphakathi ndaza ndawela kuwo, apho ndazama ukubiza isinqandamathe sam, esasingaphandle kwegumbi kodwa ndambona ngodonga lweglasi, ndimane ndimtsalela umnxeba waqonda ukuba uphi ukumtsalela umnxeba, kodwa ngalento wayesele ephumile emanzini., emva koko ndavuka kodwa yandothusa ngoba yayiziva iyinyani
Ndiphuphe ndihamba ngendlela emnyama emxinwa kodwa kuye kwafuneka ndime apho ndicela ukuphuma ehallini bekugcwele iibhola zelindle sanyathela emva koko sishiya apho sayifumana ibulisa igcwele ngamatye sawa kuba apho besingabantu abangakumbi ibingathi yindlela yokufa namanzi kwaye semka apho saphakama salumis saya ehotele entle kakhulu kwaye intombi yam encinci yatyhalwa yangena kwipucina kodwa amanzi acacile kwaye ndawaphosa ngaphandle kodwa weza phandle kakuhle
Ndiphuphe ndihamba nonyana wam kwaye sabona iphuli enkulu enqumla ulwandle, kukho isikhephe esikhulu esicoceka ichibi, abanye bethatha indawo besusa lonke ukungcola emazantsi, kwaphela umzuzwana kuba amanzi acaca ngokukhawuleza kwaye ungabona iminatha emikhulu yokuphosa. ngakumbi intlanzi ngokokutsho kwabo babecoca bathetha nam ephupheni kwaye bandixelela ukuba le ntlanzi ithatha ubume bento oyibonayo, yayiyintlanzi ehlekisayo emva koko kwahlekwa kwavakala kwaye wonke umntu wayenayo kumnandi, the same person ebethetha nam ngaphambili undibambe ngesandla ndibhaptizwa emanzini bekumnandi kwaye ndikonwabele. Andiyazi enye into eyenzekileyo ngoba ndivuke ngalamzuzu
Ndiphuphe ndibhukuda echibini kwaye kukho iintlanzi ezincinci, amanzi ebesiqhelo okanye acocekile kodwa ebengemdaka, ebelungile, ezolile kwaye ndiziva ndilungile, ndafunda kwenye indawo ukuba xa uphupha uloba umntu ukhulelwe kwaye ke ndilungile. Ndivele ndavuka kanti ndiyaphupha nje.
Ndiphuphe ndibona intlanzi enkulu echibini kodwa bendingekho echibini ndabona umfana abambe intlanzi encinci….
Ndiphuphe ichibi ebendimenyelwe kulo kwindlu (indlu engaziwayo, umnikazi ongaziwayo) bendizakuqubha kuyo kodwa HAYI ngovuyo amanzi ebenamafu kwaye bekukho iintlanzi eziphilayo zale mibala yeorenji efumaneka rhoqo Amachibi okutyela amaTshayina ... imvakalelo yam kukuba ndingene echibini ukuze umnini angaziva ngathi uyasidelela isimemo sakhe
Ngoko, ukuphupha i-pool yamanzi amdaka ngaba uyazisola ngento ethile?